Understanding Submission – Part I – Ephesians 5.21-22

We’re on our sixth message in our Marriage & Family Series, and the title of this morning’s sermon is, “Understanding Submission – Part I”

Each week I want to begin by reviewing the foundation we established for this series as I think it’s important to keep these things in mind…

LESSON 1: AS WE BEGIN, MAKE THE DECISION TO:

· PART I: FOCUS ON YOUR WEAKNESSES MORE THAN YOUR SPOUSE’S

(PART II) AND TURN YOUR FRUSTRATIONS INTO PRAYER.

o Now don’t raise your hand, but:

§ How many of you have been frustrated w/ your spouse since this series started?

§ And how many of you have prayed for your spouse when you’ve been frustrated?

§ As your pastor, my hope is your prayer life for your spouse has increased!

· PART III: TRUST THE HOLY SPIRIT TO WORK (PART IV) WITH YOU.

  • PART V: REMEMBER LISTENING IS NOT ENOUGH.
  • PART VI: EMBRACE THE STRUGGLE (PART VII) BECAUSE OF WHAT IT PRODUCES.

I think there’s a lot of confusion about what submission is and isn’t. So that’s we’re going to be discussing!

LESSON 2: SUBMISSION IS NOT: AMERICAN.

I have bad news for you: as an American, you’re probably going to have more trouble w/ submission than anyone else in the entire world. We probably
wouldn’t even have to have a sermon defending submission if we weren’t Americans. We have so much trouble w/ submission b/c it is un-American. It is
anti-American.

We value freedom and liberty more than we value almost anything else. To many people, submission looks like a loss of liberty and freedom. “Give me liberty or give me death” was the quote from Patrick Henry made to the Virginia Convention in 1775 that’s credited w/ convincing them to
commit troops to the Revolutionary War. “Give me liberty or give me death” is very close to, “I would rather die than submit!” And some
people probably feel that way!

Now obviously when your nation prides itself on quotes like this, you’re going to have a hard time w/ submission…and as Christians there are two big
problems w/ having a hard time w/ submission:

1. First, submission is spoken of very frequently in the Bible; therefore, if you have a problem w/ submission, you’re going to have a problem w/ the
Bible.

2. Second, submission isn’t just spoken of frequently, it’s spoken of very positively – or I should say having a submissive spirit – is spoken of very
positively in Scripture. So if you don’t want to be a submissive person, you’re going to have a hard time following Christ.

Now I’m going to take a slight detour that’s related to this lesson and related to marriage, but it’s going to take a little time to tie everything back
together…

We’re looking at one of the main reasons American churches have voting. Churches don’t have voting b/c they see it in the NT: churches have voting b/c
churches are filled w/ Americans who think the church should look more like America than they think it should look like the New Testament. The main problem
w/ voting is it puts the final decisions of the church in the hands of the congregation instead of the elders.

When we rewrote our bylaws we took out voting, and we took it out for one simple reason: our desire w/ our bylaws was to be as faithful to the NT as
possible and we didn’t see voting in the New Testament. We didn’t take it out b/c we hated it or had an ax to grind w/ it; in fact, in some ways voting
makes leadership easier:

· You present people w/ choices.

· They choose.

· You’re not really held responsible.

· People can’t really be upset w/ you if they don’t get what they wanted, b/c they were simply outvoted.

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With that said, there seem to be two extremes regarding church government that cause problems in churches…

One of the extremes I’m discussing right now: you have congregations that don’t really think elders are supposed to lead the church. The elders are really
just figureheads and the congregation ultimately decides what the church does and doesn’t do. The problem w/ this is God calls the elders – and not the
congregation – to lead the church, and when elders don’t lead the church, the church isn’t running according to God’s plan in the NT.

The other extreme is authoritarian or dictatorial elders who receive absolutely no feedback from their congregations and give no thought to the feelings or
interests of the flock.

We attended a church like this…

One Sunday we showed up and the pastor said, “My son is going to be the new associate pastor.” We had no idea they were even thinking about
getting an associate pastor, say nothing about making the pastor’s son the new associate pastor. There were two elders in the church, one of them resigned
and left the church w/ his family, and a number of other families left the church too. I thought some transparency and feedback probably could’ve helped
prevent the whole disaster.

My suspicion is if you talked to the pastor about what he did, he probably would’ve said something like, “God called me to lead this church and this is what God wants me to do so I can’t let the congregation interfere.”

Wanting to avoid both of these extremes – believing both to be unbiblical – we tried to strike the correct balance:

· We set the bylaws up where the elders can lead and make the final decisions.

· But we also put practices in place that allow us to be transparent w/ the congregation and receive feedback and input from you regarding the decisions we
make.

Let me give you three examples of how this has played out…

First, when we installed deacons, we asked the congregation for the names of men you thought should be deacons, b/c that’s how we see it take place in Acts
6 when deacons were established…

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Brethren, SEEK OUT FROM AMONG YOU
(so the congregation was told to seek out these men)

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And the saying pleased the whole multitude
(or pleased the congregation…). And they (the congregation) chose (then it lists the seven men they chose…) 6 WHOM THEY SET BEFORE THE APOSTLES (so the congregation presented these men to the leaders); and when they
(the elders) had prayed, they laid hands on them. So the elders made the final decision to lay hands on them and appoint them. This is
what we tried to do:

· You gave us the names of the men to be deacons.

· We gave you two weeks to share any concerns w/ us…and there weren’t any.

· Then we laid hands on them and installed them.

Another example of receiving feedback from you, but making the final decision ourselves took place w/ Pastor Doug. When we hired him, we constantly asked
for your feedback on him and his family and to say your feedback was instrumental would be an understatement. We never would’ve considered hiring Pastor
Doug if it wasn’t for your enthusiastic feelings about him and his family.

The third example of getting feedback from you to make decisions will be taking place tonight…

With the introduction of home fellowships, we’ve been discussing the youth and young adult study on Wednesday nights and what it should look like, so we
decided to have a special church meeting about it tonight. So we’ll talk w/ you, hear your thoughts, get your input, then try to figure out what would be
best.

Now I’m discussing all this for three reasons:

First, I want you to understand why our church runs the way it does and why we wrote our bylaws the way we did. It’s probably good every once-in-a-while
that I mention in sermons why we do things the way we do so you can understand the church’s practices and hopefully have confidence in us…and most
importantly so you can believe our desire is to operate according to the instruction in God’s Word.

But the second reason I mention all this is Jesus is called the Great Shepherd of the church, and elders are considered His under shepherds: 1 Pet 5:1-2 The elders who are among you I exhort…2 Shepherd the flock of God which is among you.

Now since Christ’s relationship to the church is a picture of marriage, if pastors and elders are sub shepherds to Christ, the pastors’ and elders’
relationships to their congregations can make a simple model of the father’s relationship to his family. We say “our church family” and we want to see our
church as a family – I hope you look around and consider these people to be your family – but this is also appropriate b/c every church is a picture of a
family w/ the father serving as the pastor.

Bruce Ware said,

One of the most important features of a father’s leadership in his home is his responsibility to train his children in the Scriptures and the Christian
faith, and to nurture them in knowing and loving God. In this sense, fathers are pastors or shepherds to their children, and they would do well to
embrace this truth as their own. How good it will be when an increasing number of Christian fathers own their roles as their family’s pastors.”

Please listen to this verse describing elders’ – or pastors’ – relationships to their churches, and consider how much this sounds like a father’s
relationship to his family…

Heb 13:17
speaking to congregations: Obey those who rule over you (referring to elders), and be submissive, for they (the elders)watch out for your souls, as those who must give account. Let them (the elders) do so with joy and not with grief, for that would be unprofitable for you.

Now think of the parallels this has to the marriage relationship:

· Congregations are commanded to submit to their elders like wives are commanded to submit to their husbands.

· The verse says elders watch out for your souls, like husbands ought to watch out for the souls of their families.

  • The verse says elders must give account, like husbands must give account. Elders have higher accountability b/c they’re accountable to
    Christ and husbands have higher accountability, b/c they’re accountable to Christ. 1 Cor 11:3 says the head of woman is man, but it also says the head of every man is Christ.

o So while wives have husbands as their head, husbands have Christ as their head.

o That’s pretty serious accountability for husbands…and it’s the same accountability elders have b/c they also have Christ as their head.

· Finally, the verse commands congregations to let elders lead with joy and not with grief, and wives should strive to let their husbands
lead with joy and not with grief.

Earlier I said there are two unhealthy extremes in the church…and I think they’re the same two unhealthy extremes in marriage:

· The elders don’t lead and the congregation runs the church; the unhealthy extreme in marriage is the husband doesn’t lead and the wife runs the family.

· The other unhealthy extreme in the church is the elders are authoritarian or dictatorial and don’t consider their congregations’ feelings or receive any
input from them. The unhealthy extreme in marriage would be authoritarian or dictatorial husbands who don’t consider their wives’ feelings or receive any
input from them.

The point is just like both extremes regarding leadership and submission are unhealthy in the church, so are both extremes regarding leadership and
submission unhealthy in marriage.

Now the third reason I wanted to mention all this – congregations submitting to their elders – is it makes an important but simple point that leads to our
next lesson…

LESSON 3: SUBMISSION IS NOT: ONLY FOR WIVES.

When we hear the word submission, unfortunately, the first thing that comes to mind is wives submitting to their husbands. But one of the points
I’m really hoping to make in this sermon is wives are far from the only people to have to submit. The fact is we’re all commanded to submit in different
ways.

We’ve already discussed congregations submitting to their elders.

1 Pet 3:1-6 is the other very strong passage on wives submitting to their husbands. But before Peter commands wives to submit to their husbands, he first
discusses submission in a number of other relationships. The fact is when Peter discusses submission in 1 Pet 3:1-6, it’s really part of a larger section
on submission in general that goes 1 Pet 2:13 to 1 Pet 3:6:

· 1 Pet 2:13-17 and Rom 13:1-7 is about believers submitting to government.

· 1 Pet 2:18-25 and Eph 6:5-8 is about slaves submitting to masters, or we would better understand this as employees submitting to bosses or employers.

  • Col 3:20
    & Eph 6:1 is about children obeying – or submitting to – their parents.

The point is there’s a lot of submission in the Bible outside of wives submitting to their husbands.

· Congregations submitting to elders.

· Believers submitting to government.

· Employees submitting to employers

· Children submitting to parents.

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Now the marriage portion of Eph 5 starts at verse 22. I’m sure all of your Bibles have a subtitle for verse 22, but I want you to look at verse 21, a verse
unrelated to the marriage passage, b/c I want you to see one of the other forms of submission…

Ephesians 5:21
submitting to one another in the fear of God

As believers we’re called to submit to one another.

This verse is referring to the responsibility we have to defer to each other and make every effort to be at peace w/ each other:

  • Rom 12:18
    If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.
  • Heb 12:14 Pursue peace with all people.

Eph 5:21 is about having a submissive spirit where you’re willing to give up your rights, and give up what you want, to have unity in the body of Christ.
It’s talking about the mutual submission we should all exhibit toward each other. If you remember the sermons on spiritual liberties, those were primarily
about us submitting to each other. When your brother or sister in Christ could be offended or stumbled by something you do, you submit to that person and
give up your right.

It’s the language of Phil 2:3-4 – you can even circle Eph 5:21 and write, “Phil 2:3-4” Let

nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. 4 Let
each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.

Now unfortunately, some people use Eph 5:21 to argue against wives submitting to their husbands b/c they say it means husbands and wives should submit to
each other. There are a few big problems w/ that interpretation:

1. First, it’s obvious Eph 5:21 is not talking about marriage; it’s talking about our mutual responsibilities toward each other. You can see Paul begins
addressing marriage in the next verse.

2. Second, it can’t be saying husbands should submit to their wives b/c that would conflict w/ the overwhelming theme in the NT of wives submitting to
their husbands. Please listen to these verses:

a. Eph 5:22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.

b. Eph 5:24 So let wives be [subject] to their own husbands in everything.

c. Col 3:18 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

d. 1 Pet 3:1 Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands.

e. Titus 2:5 commands wives to be obedient to their husbands

f. For the same command to be repeated five times in the NT makes it one of the clearest commands in the NT.

3. Plus, as we’re going to see in a future sermon, some husbands in the OT were actually rebuked FOR submitting to their wives:

a. Gen 3:17 [God said to Adam], “Because you have heeded (or submitted to) the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree.

b. 1 Kin 21:25 There was no one like Ahab who sold himself to do wickedness in the sight of the Lord , because Jezebel his wife stirred him up (or b/c he submitted to her).

c. So you have these examples of husbands who were actually in trouble for submitting to their wives!

Along w/ Eph 5:21, one of the other verses sometimes used to criticize submission is

Gal 3:28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, THERE IS NEITHER MALE NOR FEMALE; for you are all one in Christ Jesus.

Then you’ll hear, “See, there’s neither male or female. God doesn’t expect wives to submit to their husbands b/c He doesn’t see a difference between them.”

There are three problems w/ this interpretation:

1. First, it’s taking the verse out of context. The context of the verse is salvation. It’s saying everyone – whether Jew, Gentile, slave, free, male or
female – are all saved the same, and that’s by grace through faith. It’s not saying men and women are exactly the same in terms of their roles and
responsibilities before God.

2. Second if this verse was saying wives don’t have to submit to their husbands it would conflict w/ the 5 clear commands in the NT for wives to submit to
their husbands.

3. Third, wit would also conflict w/ the plan God established at creation PRIOR to The Fall for husbands to take the lead in the marriage relationship.

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Now let me share two points w/ you that are worth noticing…

1. First, every verse in the NT that discusses wives’ relationships to their husbands commands wives to submit. You cannot find one passage in the NT that
discusses wives w/o also finding a command for them to submit to their husbands. When you can’t find any verses in the NT about wives w/o also finding a
command for them to submit to their husbands, that’s significant.

2. Second, despite all the verses in the NT commanding submission in these different areas:

o Congregations to elders.

o Believers to government.

o Employees to employers

o Children to parents.

o Wives to husbands.

· It’s significant that you can’t find one verse discussing husbands submitting to their wives. C.J. Mahaney said, “

It is a striking fact that every New Testament passage discussing the role of a wife in relation to her husband requires her to submit to him, while no
passage indicates that a husband should be subordinate to his wife. Any honest reading of Scripture must conclude that a wife is commanded to submit to
her husband.”

So the point is this: submission is not only for wives. There’s also:

· Congregations to elders.

· Believers to government.

· Employees to employers

· Children to parents.

· Christians to one another

But despite all these forms of submission, there’s no verse about husbands submitting to their wives.

Now w/ all that said, I want to try to strike a delicate balance here…

Every healthy, joyful marriage – every marriage where a woman feels loved and respected is a marriage where a husband has submitted to his wife:

· What husband hasn’t went along w/ his wife at different times?

  • What husband hasn’t submitted to his wife’s wishes at times?
  • What husband hasn’t give his wife what she wanted at times?

I’m sure most – if not all – husbands have submitted to their wives in various ways. Godly men are not going to throw submission around loosely. They’re
going to strive to reach an agreement w/ their wives first, and even at times when an agreement can’t be reached, they still might defer to their wives at
times.

Let me share a recent example of me submitting to Katie…

The other night Katie really wanted to go get frozen yogurt. I thought it would be nice if we surprised the kids and had a whole bunch of popcorn and
watched one of my favorite shows…a show filled w/ thrills, tremendous plot lines, and edge-of-your-seat action: Little House on the Prairie.

So I was doing cardio – already getting excited about the huge bowl of popcorn I was going to enjoy after – when my mom called and said, “Katie invited us to go to frozen yogurt with you. When do you want us to come over?” I thought,

“Okay, I didn’t know we decided we were going to frozen yogurt, and last time we went there, they weren’t selling popcorn…or watching Little House on
the Prairie.”

In fact, they were watching Harry Potter. So we ate our yogurt outside.

Now guys, I’m sure you can all relate to this:

· You’re excited about some way you want to spend your evening.

· You’re looking forward to your huge bowl of popcorn.

· You’re excited about your favorite TV show…probably Little House on the Prairie.

When you find out your wife, wants to do something else.

Now you have two choices:

  • You can put your foot down and say, “We talked about having popcorn and watching Little House on the Prairie, and that’s what we’re going to do, and we’re going to enjoy it.”
  • Or, you can say, “You know what? I’m going to sacrifice for my wife. I’m going to pick up my cross…and take it to the frozen yogurt shop.”

· Eph 5:26 says husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies, and my wife’s body wanted yogurt.

But here’s the craziest part of that night: when we got there she decided she wanted Panda Express. She didn’t even get frozen yogurt!

Now this might seem like a silly example, but I’m trying to make the point that even though wives are commanded to submit to their husbands, godly, loving
husbands look for ways to bless their wives, and give them what they want even though it’s not what the husband wants…and in this case it blessed my wife
to get frozen yogurt…or Panda Express.

LESSON 4: SUBMISSION IS NOT: DONE KICKING AND SCREAMING.

The way we submit, whether it’s:

· Congregations to elders.

· Believers to government.

· Employees to employers

· Children to parents.

· Christians to one another

· Wives to husbands…

Is as important as submitting itself. And when we submit, if we do it kicking and screaming, we aren’t really submitting.

We think of submission as an action; we think of submission as something outward. But while submission manifests itself outwardly, it’s really an attitude;
it’s an issue of the heart.

And this applies to husbands to when we submit to our wives like I mentioned earlier. When Katie asks me to change a diaper or take out the trash, does she
really appreciate me doing it, if I do it w/ a lot of eye rolling, moaning and groaning, huffing and puffing?

When I was in the military there was a lesson one of our commanders taught us that I’ll never forget. He said, “What do you do w/ every order you’re given.” None of us answered correctly. We said things like:

  • “Make sure you know exactly what you’re being ordered to do.”
  • “Learn from the order.”
  • “Carry out the order as quickly as possible.”

But he said we should take every order and make it our own. What he meant was when you’re supposed to do something, or when you’re submitting to someone,
you do your best to act like it’s what you want to do…even though you might not…and more than likely it won’t be what you want to do, b/c if you wanted to
do it it wouldn’t involve any submission! So basically, submission is always going to involve doing something you don’t want to do.

Now one of the other reasons I like this story from the military, is the Greek word for submit is actually a military term. It means, “to arrange under, to subordinate.” Here’s what it says in a Greek Lexicon: This word was a Greek military term meaning ‘to arrange [troop divisions] in a military fashion under the command of a leader.’”

Can you imagine in the military if a soldier was asked to do something, and he moaned and groaned, rolled his eyes, complained and argued w/ his commander?
We can’t even imagine someone doing that b/c of how much it would be frowned upon.

We should recognize how much it’s spiritually frowned upon when we “submit” but do so kicing and screaming.

LESSON 5: SUBMISSION IS NOT: A MATTER OF SUPERIORITY.

Let me ask you to think about something…

Even though:

· Congregations are commanded to submit to elders…

· Believers are commanded to submit to government…

· Employees are commanded to submit to employers..

· And children are commanded to submit to parents…

Do we think that means:

· Elders are superior to their congregations.

· Governments are superior to the people they govern.

· Employers are superior to their employees.

· Or parents are superior to their children?

No, we don’t think that, and that’s also why we don’t think husbands are superior to their wives.

The tendency is to think if wives are supposed to submit to their husbands, that means husbands are superior to wives. When people want to criticize
submission you’ll almost always hear something like:

  • “God made husbands and wives equal; therefore, wives don’t have to submit to their husbands.”
  • “If wives were supposed to submit to their husbands, that would mean wives are inferior to husbands.”

What they’re trying to do is imply that submission means two people are not equal.

Gloria Steinem is an American feminist. If you had to choose just one person most responsible for feminism and Women’s Lib, it would be her. Let’s just say
she didn’t think wives should submit to their husbands.

She said: “A feminist is anyone who recognizes the equality and full humanity of women and men.”

Do you see what she did? She acted like submission is about equality. She acted like if wives were to submit to their husbands or have different roles than
their husbands then they’re not equal. She’s implying submission would mean wives are less of a human.

The Bible completely disagrees w/ her…

1 Pet 3:1-6 is the other major passage on submission, and in verse 7 Peter begins to address husbands and he commands them to give honor to [their wives],
as to the weaker vessel, and as being HEIRS TOGETHER of the grace of life. We’ll talk more about this verse when we cover 1 Pet 3:1-7, but I want you to
notice one of the main parts of the command is for husbands to see themselves as heirs or equals w/ their wives:

· The NAS says show her honor as a fellow heir

  • The NLT calls wives “equal partners”

When God explained His reason for creating women in Gen 2:18 He said, It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper COMPARABLE TO HIM (or equal w/ him).”

So it’s obvious Scripturally that even though God commands wives to submit to their husbands, He sees them as equals:

  • Husbands are not superior to wives.
  • Wives are not inferior to husbands.

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Now that’s one way to see submission isn’t a matter of superiority, but probably the bigger, easier way to understand submission has nothing to do w/
superiority is by answering one simple question: “Who is the most submissive Person (capital P) who has ever walked the earth?” Starts w/ “J”,
ends w/ “esus.”

Nobody has ever been more submissive than Jesus. There are so many verses I could give you about Jesus’ submission to the Father, but here are just two:

1. John 6:38 I have come down from heaven, not to do My own will, but the will of Him who sent Me.

2. And perhaps the most beautiful picture of submission in history second to Christ actually being on the cross: Matt 26:39[Jesus] went a little farther and fell on His face, and prayed, saying, “O My Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from Me; nevertheless, not as I will, but as You will.That is submission:

a. It’s not my will.

b. It’s your will.

c. But I’ll do your will, even though it’s not will.

d. I will make your will my own!

If you briefly look at Eph 5:23 – which we’ll get to in an upcoming sermon – it says: For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is the head of
the church.

If you only had this verse, you’d think Christ is in charge of everyone and everything, but now listen to a verse that uses the exact same language as Eph
5:23, and it says: 1 Cor 11:3 I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man (so up to this
point it sounds just like Eph 5:23, but then it adds…), and the head of Christ is God.

· You have women recognizing men as their head.

· Men recognizing Christ as their head.

· But then you’re told Christ recognizes God – or the Father – as His head!

So you see nobody is without authority; nobody is free from submission, not even Christ. There’s only one exception and that’s God the Father.

One reason women shouldn’t mind submitting to their husbands and seeing their husbands as their “head” is Jesus didn’t mind submitting to
the Father and seeing the Father as His head! For those women who object to submitting to their husbands and object to having husbands as their head, they
have to object to Christ submitting to the Father and having the Father as His head.

The fact is this: Jesus is the premier picture of submission. To be submissive is to be like Christ – and I don’t just mean wives submitting to their
husbands, I mean:

· Congregations to elders.

· Believers to government.

· Employees to employers

· Children to parents.

A submissive heart is a heart like Christ’s. To submit is to be like Christ.

And just to let you know, the submission w/in the Godhead goes beyond just the Father and the Son: the Holy Spirit was submissive to the Father and the
Son. There is beautiful and perfect submission w/in all three Persons of the Trinity, but all three are also beautifully and perfectly equal.

Now if you want to talk about the opposite of submission, if you want to talk about being insubmissive, who is the premier picture: Satan:

  • He didn’t want to submit to God.
  • He wasn’t content w/ his position.

· He wasn’t content having God has his head or authority.

Isa 14:13-14 the devil said: ‘I will ascend into heaven,


I will exalt my throne above the stars of God;

I will sit on the mount of the congregation…

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I will ascend above the heights of the clouds,

I will be like the Most High.’

That is a heart that doesn’t want to submit!

Think of what the devil said to Eve: Gen 3:4 “You will not surely die. 5 For God knows that in the day you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God
(just like Satan said to himself about being like God), knowing good and evil.” Basically the devil said:

  • You don’t need to listen to God.
  • You don’t need to submit to Him.
  • You don’t need Him as your head.
  • You can be like Him.

If Jesus is the perfect picture of submission to authority, Satan is the perfect picture of insubmissiveness and rebellion. To be insubmissive or to be
rebellious, whether it’s:

  • Congregations toward elders…
  • Believers toward government…
  • Employees toward employers…
  • Children toward parents…
  • Or wives toward husbands…

Is to be like Satan. It’s to follow his example.

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Now back to our lesson: here’s the real question…all that for this…

Even though Jesus was perfectly submissive to the Father, was He equal w/ the Father? Yes. Absolutely.

  • John 10:30 “I and My Father are one.”

· When Jesus prayed for believers in John 17:20-23 here’s part of what He said, “I pray…21 that they all may be one, as You, Father, are in Me, and I in You…22 …that they may be one just as We are one: 23 You in Me.” This shows the strong equality
between the Father and the Son!

And in some ways, the Son’s submissiveness to the Father, and the unity, equality and oneness they shared is a beautiful picture of the wife’s
submissiveness to her husband, and the unity, equality and oneness they should share.

The point is this: if you feel like a wife’s submission to her husband makes her inferior to her husband, you have to believe Jesus is inferior to the
Father, and the Holy Spirit is inferior to the Father and the Son.

I want to conclude by asking you to think about Jesus’ example; He’s really our premier example of submission; when we think of submission, we should think
of Him:

· Think about WHAT Jesus was willing to submit to.

· Think about HOW Jesus was willing to submit.

· Finally, think about WHY Jesus was willing to submit.

Heb 12:2
says [we should look] unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the JOY THAT WAS SET BEFORE HIM ENDURED THE CROSS.

Nobody has ever had as much to submit to as Jesus did, and nobody has ever submitted to any trial or any suffering as well as Jesus did. Whenever we’re
facing a situation that calls for submission, we should always be encouraged by the example Jesus set for us.

Please look at the closing song lyrics on the back of your inserts. Because of Christ’s submission we can sing:

Because the sinless Savior died,

My sinful soul is counted free;

For God the just is satisfied

To look on Him and pardon me.

It’s because of Christ’s submission that we’re able to say our sinful souls are counted free.

LET’S REVIEW THESE LESSONS:

SUBMISSION IS NOT…

LESSON 2: AMERICAN.

LESSON 3: ONLY FOR WIVES.

LESSON 4: DONE KICKING AND SCREAMING.

LESSON 5: A MATTER OF SUPERIORITY.

Author: Scott LaPierre