Submitting Without Fear – 1 Peter 3.5-6

We’re on the 11th message in our Marriage & Family Series and the title of this morning’s sermon is “Submitting Without Fear.”

We looked at verses 3 through 5 last week. They discussed women focusing on the inner beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit. Verse 5 said this is how women
in the Old Testament made themselves beautiful, and that beauty manifested itself through submission to their husbands.

Now verse 6 mentions an Old Testament woman as an example for wives and that’s Sarah. And ladies, I want to say that I hope the fact that she’s chosen
might serve as a real encouragement to you for two reasons…

First, you should be encouraged by who Sarah was supposed to submit to…

It’s tempting for women to say, “I wouldn’t have any trouble submitting to my husband if I was married to Abraham, the father of faith, one of the greatest men in the Bible!” But
the truth is being married to Abraham would’ve been very, very difficult for any wife:

1. First, God had a unique calling on Abraham’s life:

a. How many places did they live?

b. How many times did they move?

c. It would’ve been very difficult for any wife to follow him all over the place.

2. Second, it was difficult to submit to Abraham, b/c he made really foolish decisions sometimes:

a. He took his nephew Lot w/ him, which he wasn’t supposed to do and it caused a lot of problems.

b. He told Sarah to say she was his sister b/c he was afraid he might be murdered…so he basically put his wife in jeopardy to protect himself. This led to
Abraham being rebuked by a pagan king and run out of the land…and this happened TWICE!

c. So here’s the question: did Abraham look like a strong, brave husband that’s easy to submit to and follow? The fact is sometimes he looked like a
cowardly, compromising husband who was willing to endanger his wife to protect himself!

The second reason you should be encouraged by Sarah being chosen as the example for wives is she wasn’t always the perfect picture of submission and faith.
It would be easy for wives to be discouraged if Sarah was the perfect wife, but the facts is she struggled w/ submission and faith at different times. Here
are two examples:

· First, most famously she struggled w/ submission w/ the whole Hagar situation. That was her idea. Instead of submitting to her husband, she told him what
to do and it ended up being a huge disaster on a number of levels…including Abraham submitting to Sarah, and then Sarah getting angry at Abraham…for doing
what she wanted him to do.

· Second, she struggled w/ faith when the Angel of the Lord visited Abraham and told him Sarah would have a child the following year – when she was 90 –
and she laughed…b/c of her lack of faith. Then she was confronted about it and she lied.

So ladies, be encouraged: God isn’t expecting you to be perfect!

Now after listening to these mistakes it might make you wonder why Sarah was chosen as the example for wives, and here are my thoughts…

First, if Sarah wasn’t chosen, who should be chosen? Who was the perfect wife? There isn’t one. The Proverbs 31 woman isn’t a real woman. She doesn’t
exist. She will never exist. I mean a woman who does her husband good EVERY day of his life?

Second, despite Sarah’s mistakes, look at verse 6 to see what God said about her: please notice the words Sarah obeyed Abraham. Yes, Sarah
had her failings – like all of us do – but for the most part she was a woman that submitted to her husband and respected him.

Third, notice the words calling him lord.

· I’m sure this would go over really well today.

  • See how far you women have drifted?

· I’m not sure what you wives call your husbands, but this is how Katie most often addresses me at home. I’m kidding.

Let me briefly explain this and then I’ll provide the application for today…

Lord” was a title used often in the Old Testament. Men would even refer to each other this way out of respect. We don’t use this word as
a title anymore. The closest comparable English title would be, “Sir”. So it’s just to say that Sarah treated Abraham w/ respect.

There are certain areas of Scripture that are descriptive and not prescriptive, and this is one of those areas.

Sometimes you’ll hear people talk about places in Scripture that are cultural. Sometimes people call things cultural when they aren’t cultural…like female
pastors or homosexuality are often called cultural even though they’re forbidden for today. But I would say Sarah calling Abraham Lord
would be a good example of something in the New Testament that actually is cultural: women don’t have to call their husbands Lord.

But while calling your husband lord isn’t necessary, the principle behind it is binding for today. Please notice the words whose daughters you are if you do good. This is encouraging wives to be like Sarah, which means recognizing your husband as the leader of
your family, respecting him and submitting to him like Sarah did w/ Abraham.

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Finally, please notice the words not afraid with any terror.

Ladies, I hope these words might be a real encouragement to you, b/c they perfectly capture how wives feel at times when they have to submit to their
husbands: look at the word terror. In the Greek this word means, “to be afraid of with terror.” It’s the noun form of the verb
for terrified in:

  • Luke 21:9
    when Jesus said, “When you hear of wars and commotions, do not be TERRIFIED.”

· When Jesus appeared to the disciples after His resurrection and Luke 24:37 says, “ They were TERRIFIED and frightened, and supposed they had seen a spirit.”

We’ve talked about submission in a number of sermons up to this point. I want to remind you of a lesson about submission from two previous sermons and I
want to add one more part to it. Please look at Lesson 1 on your inserts…


(NOTE: Parts 1 through 3 are from “Understanding Submission–Part II” on 10/19/14, and Parts 4 and 5 are from “Winning Over Your Husband” on 11/9/14

) LESSON 1: SUBMISSION DOESN’T MEAN SUBMITTING TO (PART I) OTHER MEN, (PART II) ABUSE, (PART III) SIN, (PART IV) BUT
IT DOES MEAN SUBMITTING:

  • (PART V) TO UNBELIEVERS (PART VI) SO THEY MIGHT BECOME BELIEVERS. This is from when we covered verse 1:

    Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the
    conduct of their wives,

· BUT IT DOES MEAN SUBMITTING (PART VII) WHEN YOU FEEL TERROR…

Ladies, you’re called to submit to your husbands, even if you feel terror.

Now in my mind:

· Terror is what you feel when you’re on a plane that’s about to crash.

· Terror is what you feel when the doctor says you have cancer.

· Terror is what you feel when you get a call that one of your children has been in an accident.

And now you have one more thing you can add to the list: terror is what wives feel when they have to submit to their husbands.

If we think about what might be going through a woman’s mind when she submits to her husband, we can understand why she might feel terror:

  • What happens if my husband makes the wrong decision?
  • What happens if my husband ruins our family?
  • What happens if we’re not able to eat?
  • What happens if we’re not supposed to does this…or move here…or go to church here…or buy this?

So ladies, I’m assuming this might be both encouraging and discouraging:

· I hope it’s encouraging that God recognizes how you feel and He wrote about it in His Word to encourage you.

· But perhaps it’s discouraging b/c even though you’re afraid, you’re still expected to submit.

Now here’s what I hope might really, really encourage you. I need you to notice something very important: in verse 5 look at the words the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands. This tells us why these women submitted
to their husbands: b/c they trusted in God. And this brings us to the rest of Lesson 1…

Lesson 1: Submission doesn’t mean submitting to (Part I) other men, (Part II) abuse, (Part III) sin, (Part IV) but it does mean
submitting:

· (Part V) to unbelievers (Part VI) so they might become believers.

· (Part VII) when you feel terror (Part VIII) because you trust God.

I’ve heard women say, and I believe they feel this way and I understand them feeling this way:

  • I have trouble submitting to my husband, b/c I don’t trust him.
  • It would be easier for me to submit to my husband if I could trust him more.
  • I do trust God…I just don’t trust my husband.

But according to God’s Word, a wife’s submission isn’t about her trusting her husband, it’s about her trusting God. A wife’s submission doesn’t have so
much to do w/ whether she trusts her husband, it has to do w/ whether she trusts God. Sarah – and these other OT women – didn’t submit to their husbands
b/c they trusted their husbands: verse 5 says they submitted to their husbands, b/c they trusted God.

  • A woman’s submission is a reflection of her trust in God.

· A woman’s trust in God combats the fear – or terror – she might feel submitting to her husband.

And here’s the question: why is it that when wives submit to their husbands they’re trusting God?

· Because God is the one who commands wives to submit to their husbands.

· When wives submit they’re showing they trust what God says.

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Let me ask you to think about something…

Since submitting involves overcoming fear, this tells us something about submitting…and this brings us to Lesson 2…

LESSON 2: SUBMITTING IS A SIGN OF STRENGTH…

Verse 6 says submitting is a fearful thing. Women are told to, not [be] afraid with any terror.”

  • NLT Without fear of what your husbands might do.
  • ESV Do not fear anything that is frightening.
  • NAS Without being frightened by fear.

So what does this say about women who submit? It says they have a lot of strength and trust in God.

· There are plenty of women who are too afraid to submit.

· There are plenty of women who don’t have the trust in God to submit.

· There are plenty of women who don’t have the strength to submit.

So please understand this ladies:

· When you submit to your husbands, it’s not a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength.

· It’s not a sign of faithlessness, it’s a sign of being filled w/ faith.

Let me give two examples from the Old Testament that illustrate this. I specifically chose these examples b/c they involve fear – or I would say terror –
associated w/ submitting…

When Nebuchadnezzar told Daniel’s friends, Shadrach, Meshach, and Abed-Nego they were going to be thrown into the fiery furnace, in Dan 3:16 they said,

“Nebuchadnezzar…17…Our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the fiery furnace, and He will deliver us18 But
if not, let it be known to you…that we do not serve your gods, nor will we worship the gold image which you have set up.”

Now here’s the question: when Shadrach, Meshach, and Abed-Nego submitted and let themselves be thrown in the furnace:

· Was that a picture of strength or weakness?

· Was that a picture of faith or faithlessness?

They didn’t have to trust God: they could’ve been overtaken by fear and fallen down and worshipped the statue. But instead they trusted God. The fact that
they submitted and didn’t fight showed their strength and faith.

Think about Abraham sacrificing Isaac…

Unfortunately, we think Isaac was a little boy when this happened, so we sort of picture him not being strong enough to do anything BUT submit to Abraham.
But Josephus said Isaac was 25, which would’ve made Abraham 125. Isaac easily could’ve overtaken his father – he definitely didn’t have to submit to him –
but instead he’s the picture of submission. Listen to this verse: Gen 22:9

Then they came to the place of which God had told him. And Abraham built an altar there and placed the wood in order; and HE BOUND ISAAC HIS SON AND
LAID HIM ON THE ALTAR, UPON THE WOOD.

Now here’s the question: when Isaac submitted to Abraham and let him bind him and lay him on the altar:

· Was that a picture of Isaac’s weakness or strength?

· Was it a picture of his faith or faithlessness?

Of course it pictures his strength and faith.

Submission is a sign of strength and faith:

· Submission is not for weak, wimpy, doormats.

· Submission is for strong, godly, faith-filled women.

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Now I’d like to briefly share a story w/ you that I hope helps illustrate this truth, and it’s a truth that doesn’t just apply to women, but to all of us…

The summer after my 8th grade year I flew to upstate New York to work on my uncle’s dairy farm; it was the same farm my dad had worked on when
he was growing up. It’s when I realized I never wanted to work on a dairy farm. No offense to any of our dairy farmers.

Being 13 years old and not having any friends there I had to run around the farm and find things to do to entertain myself. One of the many activities I
engaged in was…messing w/ the bull that was chained up at the end of the barn. He just stood there all day staring straight ahead, so like any mature, 13
year old would do, I would harass him, try to get him to move, things like that.

One time when I guess the bull wasn’t enjoying playing w/ me as much as I was enjoying playing w/ him, he brought his head up behind me and threw me into
the air. IT WAS NOT A HARD THING FOR HIM TO DO! I remember being airborne then crashing on the ground. I looked like one of those guys thrown off bulls in
rodeos.

One of the guys who worked on the farm saw it happen and he yelled at me, told me to stay away from the bull, and told me how lucky I was I hadn’t gotten
myself killed.

Now here’s the whole reason I’m telling you all this. He said to me, “Do you see that little chain that’s around his neck? That’s all that’s holding him. He could break that chain in a second.”

Basically my cousin told me that bull wasn’t held there for any other reason than it allowed itself to be under the control of that chain.

At that moment I thought two things:

1. First, I thought, “Why don’t they put a bigger chain around his neck?”

2. Second, I thought, “That bull has a lot of strength, but it’s allowing it’s strength to be subdued by that little chain.”

And this brings us to the next part of Lesson 2…

LESSON 2: SUBMITTING IS A SIGN OF STRENGTH (PART II) UNDER CONTROL.

I want to invite you to think of submission as strength – or power – that’s restrained or under control.

My wife said,

“Ladies, you can buck your head any time you want and snap that chain and knock your husband on his rear end…or you can choose to have your strength
subdued according to God’s Word and submit to your husband.”

Submission is a choice. It’s deliberate and willful. If it’s forced it’s not submission. Richard and Sharon Phillips said,

“A wife submits voluntarily, not merely as demanded and enforced by her husband. It is a gift that a woman offers to the man she has vowed to love in
obedience to God who first loved her. For this reason, it is imperative that a woman’s submission be “as to the Lord,” that is, flowing from the
submissive obedience she already yields to Jesus Christ.”

Since all of us are called to submit in different ways, whether you’re a man, woman or child, real strength is shown in our ability to control ourselves
and submit to God’s Word. It’s a sign of strength – not weakness – no matter who you are to look at what God’s Word says and obey it.

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Now I’d like to discuss something that’s been on my mind – not just for this sermon – but from the first time we discussed submission and it’s this: wives
are commanded to submit to their husbands… but what if their husband make the wrong decision? That’s what happened w/ Sarah different times: she submitted
to Abraham…when he was making the wrong decision.

I’ve had the notes for this for weeks, and I decided to put it in this sermon for two reasons…

First, we’re covering the verse about the fear or terror women feel associated w/ submitting to their husbands, and that fear comes from the possibility of
their husband making the wrong decision.

Second, this is the sermon where wives are commanded to submit to their husbands b/c they trust God. Now b/c of that wives might be tempted to say, “ Since I’m supposed to submit to my husband b/c I trust God, this must mean God will always make sure my husband makes the right decision!”

But here’s the truth ladies: God will work through your submission, but that doesn’t mean your husband will always make the right decision.

I want to tell you so clearly that your husband will make the wrong decision sometimes that this brings us to Lesson 3. We’ll come back to Lesson 2 at the
end of the sermon…

LESSON 3: (PART I) HUSBANDS ARE GOING TO MAKE THE WRONG DECISIONS…

How straightforward is that?!?!

Think about this:

  • Daniel’s friends said, “God will deliver us from your hand…or He might not.”

· Isaac didn’t know an angel was going to stop Abraham.

All these individuals were committed to submitting even though they didn’t know what would happen:

· They didn’t submit b/c they thought it would go well for them.

· They submitted b/c they knew it was the right thing to do.

I’ve said this a number of times: the command for wives to submit is one of the clearest, and possibly most common commands in the New Testament. Five
different times wives are told to submit, but here’s what it NEVER says, “Wives submit to your husbands…b/c they’ll always make the right decision.” God never promises wives that their husbands will make the right
decisions.

So ladies I almost want to prepare you for one of the inevitable realities of submission: you’re going to submit to your husband and sometimes he’s going
to make the wrong decision. You didn’t marry Jesus.

Now here’s what makes this even more interesting – or difficult – depending how you look at it…

We’ve talked a few times before that wives submit to their husbands when they don’t agree w/ them: if wives agreed w/ their husbands they wouldn’t have to
submit to them.

So what this means is you have wives submitting to their husbands when they think their husbands are making the wrong decision: if wives thought their
husbands were making the RIGHT decision, they wouldn’t have to submit. So you’ve got wives going into submission thinking their husband is wrong and
they’re right!

So if a wife submits to her husband, and it turns out the husband was wrong, what’s the wife going to be tempted to think?

  • I knew I shouldn’t have submitted to him.
  • I’m never going to submit to him again.
  • I knew it was going to turn out this way.
  • I should’ve kept arguing w/ him.

So here’s what I want you to know ladies: your husbands are going to make the wrong decisions, BUT – and this is very, very important – you were still
right for submitting.

And this brings up a logical question…

What happens when a husband makes the wrong decision…and it turns out his wife was right?

In answering this, I have some instruction for husbands and some instruction for wives…let’s deal w/ the husbands first…

LESSON 3: (PART I) HUSBANDS ARE GOING TO MAKE THE WRONG DECISIONS (PART II) WHICH THEY SHOULD ACKNOWLEDGE…

Let’s imagine a situation that I’m sure has NEVER happened in any of your marriages…

A husband and wife are driving:

  • The wife says, “You’re supposed to turn here.”
  • The husband says, “No, it’s not this turn, it’s the next one.”

The wife is a godly submissive woman, so she doesn’t argue w/ her husband or nag him.

Then it turns out she was right and he was wrong!

Let me tell you what the husband shouldn’t do and then I’ll tell you what the husband should do…

· He shouldn’t make excuses about why he thought it wasn’t that turn.

· He shouldn’t explain how the last time they drove this way he didn’t turn there, and he was remembering that instance, so that’s why he didn’t think he
was supposed to turn there this time.

· He shouldn’t say he would’ve known to turn there if the kids hadn’t been making so much noise in the backseat distracting him…and maybe if his wife had
kept them quiet this wouldn’t have happened.

Here’s what he should do:

· He should acknowledge he made the wrong decision.

· If he wants to be his wife’s hero, he could say, “You were right and I was wrong.”

· If he was not listening to his wife b/c he was being prideful or stubborn, he could really be a man of God and say, “I’m sorry. Will you please forgive me. I should’ve listened to you.”

When a husband acknowledges he made a mistake it does a few things:

· First, it blesses his wife. Can I get an, “Amen!” ladies?

· Second, it encourages his wife to submit to him in the future.

· Third, and maybe most importantly, it sets a good example for his wife and children.


Husbands, let me share something very important w/ you and let me say it very clearly: you don’t just lead by making decisions for your family.

· You lead by the example you set.

· You lead by being humble.

· You lead by being like Christ.

One of the lessons from early in our series was, “HUSBANDS GET THE WIVES THEY PREPARE FOR THEMSELVES. It was based on Eph 5:27

[Christ] might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.

The idea is Christ gets the church He prepares for Himself, and since this verse is about marriage it also means husbands get the wives they prepare for
themselves.

Here’s what this means…

If husbands are going to:

  • Make excuses…
  • Justify themselves…

· Blame their wives or their children…

They’re going to have wives – and children – that follow their example and:

  • Make excuses…
  • Justify themselves…
  • And blame others.

But if husbands will be:

  • Humble…

· Accept responsibility for their actions…

· Admit when they’re wrong…

· And – maybe most importantly – ask for forgiveness…

They’re going to have wives and children that:

· Accept responsibility for their actions…

  • Admit when they’re wrong…

· And – maybe most importantly – ask for forgiveness.

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Two years ago at camp I shared an example w/ you from our marriage of a time that I made the wrong decision…and making it even worse, Katie told me I was
making the wrong decision. I was definitely wrong and she was definitely right.

I know some of you know this story and some of you don’t, so I’ll try to meet in the middle and shorten it up, but provide enough details to understand
what happened.

When we moved here, we rented out our house in CA. Three years ago, I wanted to rent it out to a woman we knew from church. Katie said, “Do not rent our house out to that woman. You’ve been told how messy she is. She’s going to trash our house.”

I rented it out to her anyway: she trashed our house:

· She wasn’t supposed to have any animals and at one point she had 8 dogs and 4 cats.

· The neighbors started complaining about how much the dogs were barking…so she started keeping them in the house.

· The neighbors on both sides started calling me in WA complaining about her.

· I got letters from the city complaining about the mess outside the house and how I was going to be fined if it wasn’t cleaned up.

BUT THEN I totally redeemed myself when her lease was up: Katie told me to kick her out…and I renewed her lease for a second year, hoping to recoup some of
the money I’d lost.

By the time she moved out, I lost thousands of dollars in rent and had to pay thousands of dollars in repairs to get it ready to rent again.

That’s when I told Katie, “Why didn’t you warn me about her living there?” Just kidding.

Now here’s the thing…

There were a lot of reasons I could’ve given Katie to justify my actions – none of those reasons are really coming to mind right now – but the correct
thing to say was, “I was wrong, and you were right.”

When husbands are wrong – which will happen – they should simply admit it.

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Now I want to provide a little balance to this before we move on…

If a husband is prideful and deliberately doesn’t listen to his wife b/c he’s being stubborn and then it turns out he made the wrong decision, he shouldn’t
just admit he was wrong, he should ask for forgiveness too, b/c stubbornness and pride are sins.

But if a husband considers his wife’s thoughts, is prayerful and makes the decision he believes is best for his family – even if it turns out to be the
wrong decision:

· Did he really do something wrong?

· Does he really need to feel like he did something terrible?

· Does he really need to feel bad about a decision he thought was best for his family…even if it turned out to be the wrong decision?

So here’s the balance: while husbands should acknowledge their wrong decisions, if they did what they thought was best, and they were prayerful and
considered the counsel of others, they really shouldn’t be made to feel like they sinned.

So ladies, don’t go home and say,

“Pastor Scott said you’re supposed to say you’re sorry, apologize, beg me to forgive you for every mistake you ever made, sleep on the couch until I
tell you you’re forgiven, and maybe then – and ONLY then – I’ll think about letting you lead this family again.”

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Now let’s address the wives…and this brings us to the rest of Lesson 3…

LESSON 3: (PART I) HUSBANDS ARE GOING TO MAKE THE WRONG DECISIONS (PART II) WHICH THEY SHOULD ACKNOWLEDGE, (PART III) AND WIVES SHOULDN’T SAY (any guesses
here?), “I TOLD YOU SO.”

Let me just say…

Whether you’re a wife, husband, child, parent, employee, student, whatever, there are no circumstances under which it’s ever appropriate to say, “I told you so.” Those four words are always fleshly, prideful and obnoxious. If you ever think of saying, “I told you so” make sure you
also tell yourself, “I’m about to give in to my flesh and act very prideful and immature.” So don’t be an, “’I told you so’ Person.”
Nobody likes, “’I told you so’ People.”

When a husband has the humility to say, “I made the wrong decision” a godly wife should say:

  • That was very humble.
  • Thank you for saying that.
  • We all make mistakes.
  • You did what you thought was best.
  • I still really appreciate your leadership.

The truth is if you want to be a godly wife, when your husband makes the wrong decision, he’ll already be feeling bad enough about it and what he really
needs is your encouragement and grace.

Now here’s the tough thing ladies…

Even if your husband doesn’t have the humility to say, “I made the wrong decision” – and sadly there are some husbands who won’t say this – you
STILL shouldn’t say:

  • I told you so.
  • I was right.
  • You were wrong.
  • You should’ve listened to me.

Let me share a situation from our marriage that I’ll never forget that illustrates this lesson…

Back in 2005 I started thinking about becoming a principal. I met w/ the local university to find out what I’d need to get my administrative credential. I
didn’t really want to be a principal though b/c I enjoyed teaching and I enjoyed being w/ students. Then I learned about a teaching position on the local
naval base. Everyone knew the district on the base paid much more b/c they received federal funding, and they would pay me for my time in the military, so
it gave me a raise that almost paid me what a principle would get paid…so I’d get to continue teaching.

I remember driving to the interview, trying to hold loosely the potential of getting the job even though I was very excited about it. I prayed God would
let me get the job if it was His will, and I prayed I wouldn’t get it if it wasn’t His will. At the interview they offered me the job, which I took to be
confirmation, so I excitedly accepted the position.

About the same time I started working part-time at Grace Baptist as their youth pastor. Then something happened: the 2007 recession hit, districts cut new
teachers, and since I was new to the district, even though I’d been teaching almost ten years, I lost my job.

There were no districts in the area that would hire me b/c I had worked in the two local districts…and there were no districts out of the area that would
hire me, b/c nobody was hiring!

So I had to go home and tell my pregnant wife that I lost my job – and our wonderful medical insurance – and that I didn’t think I could get another
teaching job in the area.

As you can imagine I was really wondering why God let me get the job in the first place only to lose it so quickly. And at this very low point when I felt
like I let my family down, here’s what Katie COULD HAVE said…


“You know I still love you, BUT you had a good, safe, tenured teaching position. Why didn’t you stick w/ that? You supposedly prayed about this? Next
time you better pray a little harder. You’re supposed to be the spiritual leader of our family, and you pray about a situation and the answer to your
prayer is UNEMPLOYMENT? What are we going to do now?”

Instead, I’ll never forget what Katie said. She said, “I am so excited to see what God is going to do!” She was a constant encouragement and
support to me. What a blessing it was to not have her criticize me and make me feel worse, and what a blessing it was to have her support me.

To make a long story short, that’s when Grace Baptist stepped out in faith and hired me on full-time. Pastor Joe was wonderful, convincing the church he
was convinced this was God’s way of bringing me into full-time ministry.

So there are a couple things about that situation I really appreciated in my wife:

1. First, I’ll just never forget how Katie supported me and respected me during that difficult season, and really that’s what I really needed more than
anything else.

2. Second, I’ll always appreciate how she never made me feel worse about my decision.

So ladies, let me encourage you: when your husband makes a mistake, don’t make him feel worse. Encourage him.

Now let’s conclude by completing Lesson 2…

LESSON 2: SUBMITTING IS A SIGN OF STRENGTH (PART II) UNDER CONTROL (PART III) AND JESUS WAS THE GREATEST EXAMPLE OF THIS.

Jesus is the greatest example of strength under control. You could take all the examples of submission in history, put them together, and they don’t
compare w/ Jesus’ example, b/c when Jesus submitted, there was an infinite amount of power and strength under control.

When Peter took out his sword to defend Jesus and prevent Him from being arrested, listen to part of what Jesus said: Matt 26:52-53

“Put your sword in its place…Or do you think that I cannot now pray to My Father, and He will provide Me with more than twelve legions of angels?”

His point is He could’ve easily stopped being arrested:

· It was only happening b/c He was letting it happen.

· It was only happening b/c He was submitting to it happening.

Think of the Incarnation…think of the strength that was put under control when God limited Himself to a human body…

  • Think of God indwelling the body of a man…

· Think of God having all the power and strength that comes w/ being God, but choosing to confine Himself to human flesh.

Earlier I mentioned Abraham and Isaac. Please listen to this: Gen 22:9-10

Abraham built an altar and placed the wood in order and bound Isaac and laid him on the altar. And Abraham stretched out his hand and took the knife to
slay his son.

At this moment Abraham and Isaac were part of something so much bigger than they ever could’ve imagined…

Listen to what God said to Abraham earlier: Gen 22:2 “Take now your son, YOUR ONLY SON Isaac, WHOM YOU LOVE.”

  • When God said, “Take your son, your only son.” It’s exactly what would be said 2,000 yrs later when Jesus spoke the most famous words
    in Scripture: John 3:16 God so loved the world He gave HIS ONLY SON.
  • When God said, “Take your son…whom you love.” It looked forward to the exact same words being spoken by the Father 2,000 yrs later in Matt 3:17 at Jesus’ baptism when God said, “This is My Son, WHOM I LOVE.”

When Isaac submitted to his father and allowed himself to be lifted up and placed on that wood, it pictured Jesus submitting to His Father and allowing
Himself to be lifted up and placed on that wood.

So not just ladies, but all of us, should keep in mind that when we submit and keep our strength – and fear – under control, we’re being like Christ.

LET’S REVIEW THESE LESSONS:

LESSON 1:
SUBMISSION DOESN’T MEAN SUBMITTING TO (PART I) OTHER MEN, (PART II) ABUSE, (PART III) SIN, (PART IV) BUT IT DOES MEAN
SUBMITTING:

· (PART V) TO UNBELIEVERS (PART VI) SO THEY MIGHT BECOME BELIEVERS.

· (PART VII) WHEN YOU FEEL TERROR (PART VIII) BECAUSE YOU TRUST GOD.

LESSON 2:
(PART I) SUBMITTING IS A SIGN OF STRENGTH (PART II) UNDER CONTROL (PART III) AND JESUS WAS THE GREATEST EXAMPLE OF THIS.

LESSON 3:
(PART I) HUSBANDS ARE GOING TO MAKE THE WRONG DECISIONS (PART II) WHICH THEY SHOULD ACKNOWLEDGE (PART III) AND WIVES SHOULDN’T SAY, “I TOLD YOU SO!”

Author: Scott LaPierre