Marriage God’s Way Conference

Would you (or your church) like to host a Marriage God’s Way Conference?

The Marriage God’s Way Conference Handout is given to those attending. It contains:

  1. Lessons for the messages
  2. Discussion questions for couples.

Here are the first, second, and third messages presented at Marriage God’s Way Conferences with the accompanying lessons and discussion questions…

Marriage God’s Way Conference—First Message: Reversing the Fall

FIRST MESSAGE—REVERSING THE FALL

 Lesson 1: As we begin, make the decision to:

  • (Part I) Focus on ________ ____________________ more than your spouse’s.
  • (Part II) Turn your frustrations ________ ____________.
  • (Part III) Recognize your marriage is a reflection of your ________________________ with ____________.

Lesson 2: God created headship before ______ ________ (Genesis 2:16-17).

Lesson 3: Wives are tempted to:

  • (Part I) ______________ their husbands (Genesis 3:16 cf. 4:7).
  • (Part II) ______ their husbands (Proverbs 19:13b, 21:9, 19, 25:24, 27:15–16).

Lesson 4: Husbands are tempted to:

  • (Part I) Be ________________ (Genesis 3:16).
  • (Part II) ________________ their wives (Colossians 3:19; Genesis 3:16).
  • (Part III) Be ______________ (Genesis 3:17).

Lesson 5: Reverse the effects of The Fall by ______________ God’s ________________ for marriage.

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

Husband asks wife:

  • Do you feel like I am stubborn?
  • Do you feel like I am harsh or authoritarian with you?
  • Do you feel like I am passive?

Wife asks husband:

  • Do you feel like I try to control you?
  • Do you feel like I nag you?
  • Do you feel like I stir you up for good…or evil?

Marriage God’s Way Conference—Second Message: A Husband’s Love

SECOND MESSAGE—A HUSBAND’S LOVE

Lesson 1: Husbands love their wives by ______________ them with the ________ (Ephesians 5:26; John 15:3, 17:17).

Lesson 2: Husbands love their wives by setting the ________________ for ________________ in the home.

Lesson 3: Husbands get the wives they ______________ for __________________ (Ephesians 5:27; Galatians 5:19–23, 6:7).

Lesson 4: Husbands love their wives by __________ as ___________________ about them as they are about themselves (Ephesians 5:28–29; Genesis 2:23–24).

Lesson 5: (Part I) Wives must feel like the ______________ ______________________ in their husband’s life, (Part II) which can take ____________________ ________________ things from the husband’s life (Ephesians 5:31; Matthew 5:29, 18:9).

Lesson 6: Think of how Jesus loved ______ __________ (Matthew 13:44–46; Romans 3:11; Hebrews 12:2).

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

Husband asks wife:

  • Do you feel like I love you? What do I do that makes you feel loved? What do I do that makes you feel unloved?
  • Do you feel like I take care of you as well as I take care of myself?
  • Do you feel like the supreme relationship in my life?

Wife asks husband:

  • What do I do that makes it easy to love me? What do I do that makes it hard to love me?
  • Do we have anything in our home that should be removed, because it is threatening our holiness?
  • What fruit of the Spirit or works of the flesh do you see in me that characterize my life?

Marriage God’s Way Conference—Third Message: A Wife’s Submission

THIRD MESSAGE—A WIFE’S SUBMISSION

Lesson 1: Submission is __________________ (Ephesians 5:23; 1 Corinthians 11:3).

Lesson 2: Submission is not:

  • (Part I) Done ______________ and __________________.
  • (Part II) A matter of ______________________ (John 6:38; Matthew 26:39).

Lesson 3: Submission means:

  • (Part I) Husbands still ____________ to their __________ (Genesis 2:18).
  • (Part II) A wife puts her husband in a ________________ to ________.
  • (Part III) A wife ________________ her husband even though she disagrees with him.
  • (Part IV) A wife ____________ ______ (1 Peter 3:5–6).
  • (Part V) A wife keeps her strength __________ ______________.

Lesson 4: (Part I) Husbands ____________ __________ when they’re wrong (Part II) and wives shouldn’t say, “__ ________ ______ ____!”

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

Husband asks wife:

  • How do I make it hard for you to submit to me?
  • How do I make it easier for you to submit to me?
  • Do you feel like I listen to your thoughts when it comes to making decisions?
  • Do you feel like I admit when I’m wrong, or do I make excuses and shift blame?

Wife asks husband:

  • Do you feel like I submit “kicking and screaming”?
  • Do you feel like I put you in a position to lead?
  • Do you feel like I take control of situations or decisions that should be left to you?
  • Do you feel like I say, “I told you so!”?

Marriage God’s Way Conference—Fourth Message: How Husbands Ought to Treat Their Wives

FOURTH MESSAGE—HOW HUSBANDS OUGHT TO TREAT THEIR WIVES

Lesson 1: Remember listening is ______ ____________ (Matthew 7:24-27; Luke 8:21; John 13:17; James 1:22, 4:17).

Lesson 2: Husbands treat their wives well by:

  • (Part I) ________________ them (1 Peter 3:7a).
  • (Part II) ________________ them (1 Peter 3:7b).
  • (Part III) Recognizing they’re the ____________ ____________ (1 Peter 3:7c).
  • (Part IV) Being __________________ ______ (1 Peter 3:7d; Matthew 7:19; Luke 13:7).

Lesson 3: Husbands mistreat their wives by:

  • (Part I) Responding in __________ (Genesis 30:1–2).
  • (Part II) Responding in __________ (1 Samuel 1:6–8; Proverbs 25:20).

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

Husband asks wife:

  • Do you feel like I strive to learn about you and understand you?
  • Do you feel like I honor you for your femininity?
  • Do you feel like I make your submission easier by being a spiritual man?
  • Do you feel like I respond to you in anger or pride?

Wife asks husband:

  • Do you feel like I try to be a consistent wife so it’s easier to understand me?
  • Do you feel like I strive to be feminine?
  • Thinking about the account with Rachel and Jacob, do you feel like I:
    • Act melodramatically like she did?
    • Take my frustrations out on you?
    • Covet what other women have?

Marriage God’s Way Conference Info

Schedule

A room prepared for a Marriage God's Way Conference.
A room prepared for a Marriage God’s Way Conference.

Typically there are five messages:

  1. Reversing the Fall
  2. A Husband’s Love
  3. A Wife’s Submission
  4. How Husbands Ought to Treat Their Wives
  5. How Wives Ought to Respect Their Husbands

The sessions can be adjusted to provide a greater focus on other topics, such as intimacy, communication, or complementarianism.

There is one session on Friday evening and four sessions on Saturday, but there is flexibility:

  • Sessions can be spread over Thursday, Friday, and Saturday for a three-day event or kept to Saturday for a one-day event.
  • There can be less than five sessions to allow for discussion or Q&A that can take place at the end of each message or at the end of the event. 

Compensation, Traveling, and Lodging

Since my desire is to get out the message of Marriage God’s Way, I am thankful to be compensated by having the book and workbook purchased for those attending. I request reimbursement for plane tickets or $0.50 per mile driving. I am glad to stay with a family in the church to minimize lodging and meal expenses.

Outreach

Consider viewing the conference as an outreach to strengthen the marriages of—and share Christ with—those in the community. I can set up a Facebook event page for those in the church to share. If planned early enough, fliers or invite cards can be created and distributed to the community. Additionally, churches and organizations have increased registrations by advertising that those attending receive copies of Marriage God’s Way and the accompanying workbook.

Marriage God's Way Conference flier
Marriage God’s Way Conference flier used by Christian Heritage for their annual retreat. Something similar, whether shared on Facebook or distributed in the community, allows the conference to serve as an outreach.

Contact me if interested!