How Husbands Ought to Love Their Wives – Part II – Ephesians 5.27-31a

We’re on our third message for our Marriage & Family Series, and the title is, “How Husbands Ought to Love Their Wives – Part II.”

I want to begin by reviewing the foundation we established for this series last week, as well as ask you to make the decision to do one more thing…

LESSON 1: AS WE BEGIN, MAKE THE DECISION TO:

· PART I: FOCUS ON YOUR WEAKNESSES MORE THAN YOUR SPOUSE’S

(PART II) AND TURN YOUR FRUSTRATIONS INTO PRAYER.

· PART III: TRUST THE HOLY SPIRIT TO WORK (PART IV) WITH YOU.

  • And for the new Part: PART V: REMEMBER LISTENING IS NOT ENOUGH.

As we begin, I want to ask you to remember listening is not enough. This is even more important than during our Marriage & Family Series…

Most sermons are teaching w/ me injecting some application, but while these sermons have some teaching, they’re almost entirely application; therefore,
it’s even more important to make the decision to obey what we’re hearing.

I’d like to try to explain something I saw in teaching and coaching…

When I taught elementary school, I would stand up at the board and as clearly as possible I’d try to explain to students what they were supposed to do.
Then I’d encourage the students to try to do it on their own and I’d walk around the room and look over their shoulders to see how they were doing. It
became evident pretty quickly that even though all the students heard the same instruction, they generally fell into two categories:

· Some students did what they were taught. They applied what they heard.

· Another group of students didn’t do what they were taught. They received the same instruction as the other students, but they wouldn’t apply it.

When I coached wrestling, I’d spend some amount of practice teaching new moves. I’d go over the move, teaching it step-by-step, then put the kids in twos
and have them do it. Again, you’d have two categories of athletes:

· You had athletes who did what you said. The most exciting part about coaching wrestling is when tournaments took place and you saw the wrestlers perform
the moves you showed them.

· But you’d have other athletes who watched you demonstrate the moves, but they wouldn’t do it themselves.

Now I don’t think I have to tell you which group of students and which group of athletes actually did well!

The reason I mention this is we have the potential w/ God’s Word to be like one of these two groups.

· We can hear the sermons and do what the Word says.

· Or we can hear the sermons and think our part ends simply at hearing.

It’s great to listen to God’s Word, but we have to go further than just listening: we have to apply what we’ve heard. This is one of the reasons I wanted
to give you homework last week: I wanted to give you the opportunity to apply what we learned and look at the Bible as a family.

After Pastor Doug had been here for a pretty short time, he said something that really stuck w/ me. I never thought of this before and after he said it to
me, it made me think differently about my preaching. He said, “People really like teaching at WCC, but we need to make sure they apply it.”

Most of us have received a lot of teaching. I’m guessing most of us have heard hours of biblical instruction on marriage. We have to make sure we move from
hearing God’s Word to applying it to our lives.

Jesus told an entire parable that was meant to make this single point: the Parable of the Builders in Matt 7:24-27. The story is
ultimately about two categories of people:

· People who hear God’s Word and don’t apply it.

· And people who hear God’s Word and apply it…or build their lives and marriages and families on it.

Jesus said: Whoever hears these sayings of Mine, AND DOES THEM, I will liken him to a wise man who built his house on the rock: 25a and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house;

In my mind this is describing the trials and struggles every marriage and family experiences, but b/c they obeyed Jesus’ words it says their house…

25b and it did not fall, for it was founded on the rock.
(Then Jesus says…)26 everyone who hears these sayings of Mine, AND DOES NOT DO THEM, will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand: 27a and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house;

Again the trials and struggles every marriage and family experiences, but listen to what happened to their house…

27b and it fell. And great was its fall.”

The main point of this parable is you have two groups of people, and they both heard the EXACT same teaching. The only difference is one applied it – or
obeyed it – and one didn’t. It wouldn’t be too much to say Jesus’ main point is: listening is not enough!

This is a very common biblical theme that we can’t just hear God’s Word for the sake of hearing it. We hear it so we can obey it. Please listen to these
verses:

  • Luke 8:21 Jesus said, “
    My mother and My brothers are these who hear the word of God
    (and take really good notes) AND DO IT.”
  • John 13:17 If you know these things, blessed are you
    (if you listen to lots of sermons even if you don’t put them into practice) IF YOU DO THEM.
  • Jam 1:22
    But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.
    The words deceiving ourselves is key, b/c it’s pointing out how people will listen to sermons, attend conferences, purchase marriage
    books, read blog posts, and believe b/c they’ve done that they’ve done enough, but they’re deceiving themselves b/c the only way any of these help is
    if they’re obeyed.

James does something interesting in the second chapter of his book…

He says if you have faith w/ no works, you have a worthless faith; he says a faith w/ no works is no better than no faith at all, b/c it doesn’t do what
it’s supposed to do, which is produce!

Hearing teaching w/o applying it is like having faith w/ no works: the teaching is basically worthless b/c it’s not producing the fruit or works in your
life that it’s supposed to produce! If you listen to hours and hours of sermons, but you don’t apply them, you’re no better than the person who never heard
any sermons.

In fact you’re actually worse off b/c your accountability is higher: you know better, but you’re still not doing it and Jam 4:17 If anyone knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them.

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So let me get you to think of two goals we have for this Marriage & Family Series:

1. The first goal is to learn what God’s Word says about marriage and family.

2. The second goal is to apply what that learning.

We don’t want anyone stopping after the first goal!

Now let’s briefly review what we’ve learned from verses 25 and 26…

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Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,

What’s the word for love used twice in this verse? Agapaō (pr: ah-guh-pah-oh)

It refers to love that’s:

· Unconditional and sacrificial

· It’s the way God loves the world in John 3:16.

· It’s the way Christ loved the church in Eph 5:25.

· And it’s the way husbands are commanded to love their wives.

After giving husbands this command, Paul goes on to tell us what it looks like for husbands to love their wives. Verse 26 says…

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that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word,

This means husbands are involved in their wives’ sanctification! God wants husbands to have a sanctifying and purifying love for their wives!

Let me ask the husbands:

  • How did your homework go last week?
  • How did it go washing your wives and families w/ the Word?
  • Are you putting in to practice what you’re learning?
  • Are you moving beyond just listening?

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Now Paul continues w/ more instruction regarding what it looks like for husbands to love their wives…

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that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.

This is reminiscent of the previous verse…

This is describing the sanctifying and cleansing work Jesus does w/ the church and therefore it’s describing the sanctifying and cleansing work husbands
should do w/ their wives. We talked about this extensively last week.

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What I really want you to notice are the words that He might present her to Himself. There’s a tremendous truth contained here and I want
to make sure we don’t miss it…

This verse is directly connected to verse 26. It’s saying Christ does what He does in verse 26 – sanctifying and cleansing the church – so He can get theglorious church described in verse 27 that doesn’t have spot or wrinkle or any such thing but is holy and without blemish:

  • NLT He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church
  • ESV So that he might present the church to himself in splendor

Here’s the simplest way to say this: Christ gets the church He prepares for Himself.

Now the larger context of this passage is marriage: Paul is using the relationship between Christ and the church to teach us about marriage. So guess what
else this is saying?

LESSON 2: HUSBANDS GET THE WIVES THEY PREPARE FOR THEMSELVES.

Jesus gets the church He prepares for Himself, but since this is also about marriage, it means husbands generally get the wives they prepare for
themselves.

Wives respond very well to love and holiness and obedience to God’s Word:

· When husbands treat their wives forgivingly, lovingly and tenderly they usually get more forgiving, loving and tender wives.

· When husbands treat their wives unforgivingly, unlovingly and harshly they usually find themselves w/ wives that are less forgiving, less loving and less
tender.

What might actually be more common in husbands than cruelty or harshness is apathy or indifference; it’s husbands who just aren’t interested in their
wives:

  • They don’t invest in them.
  • They don’t seek to learn them and understand them.
  • They’re often annoyed w/ them.

We’ll read 1 Pet 3 in an upcoming sermon, but 1 Pet 3:7 commands husbands to dwell with [their wives] with understanding. This means husbands have to understand their wives; they have to seek to learn them.
This is what allows wives to blossom and grow. But when husbands are indifferent and uninterested in their wives, they end up w/ cold, bitter, frustrated
wives.

Earlier I said husbands are heavily involved in their wives’ sanctification. Another way to think of this is husbands are heavily involved in the
wives…THEY GET! The reason is simple: if a husband is sanctifying and cleansing his wife, he’s going to get a sanctified and cleansed wife.

I mean if you’re a husband and you want a really good reason to take your wife to church, read the Word w/ her, pray w/ her, and help her grow spiritually
– ASIDE FROM THE FACT THAT GOD COMMANDS IT AND WILL HOLD US ACCOUNTABLE FOR IT – another great reason is you’ll get a more spiritually mature wife. And
what does that mean? What kind of qualities will you see in a spiritually mature wife? What are some of the qualities that come from sanctification? You’ll
have a wife that’s more…

  • Loving.
  • Submissive.
  • Forgiving.
  • Respectful.
  • Gentle.

If you don’t lead your wife well spiritually, you’ll get a wife who’s less spiritual. In other words, you’ll get a wife who’s more fleshly, and what comes
w/ the flesh? Gal 5:19 Now the works of the flesh are evident (and here are a few of them…) hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions.

Wives are generally the responders in the relationship. One of the reasons husbands are commanded to love and cherish their wives is…IT WORKS! God isn’t
going to command husbands to do something that doesn’t benefit the wife and the husband.

We’re going to look at verse 28 in more detail in a moment, but briefly look at it right now: 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; HE WHO LOVES HIS WIFE LOVES HIMSELF.

Why does it say a husband who loves his wife loves himself? B/c a husband who loves his wife like these verses are describing IS LOVING HIMSELF! He’s doing
himself a great service: he’s going to get a wonderful wife in return. John MacArthur said, “ A husband who loves his wife in these ways brings great blessing to himself from her and from the Lord.” A happy wife makes a happy husband! Wives
usually respond well to their husbands when they’re treated well.

Gal 6:7
says, “Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap.” There might be no more fitting area of the
Christian life for this verse than a husband’s relationship w/ his wife. Husbands generally reap what they sow in marriage:

  • If husbands will invest in their wives…
  • If they will sow seeds of love and interest…

· If they’ll sow spiritual seeds of sanctification…

They’ll reap what they’ve sown.

I have listened to some husbands talk terribly about their wives. More than likely these are husbands who have treated their wives terribly. They’re
getting the wives they’ve prepared for themselves.

Let me summarize this lesson:

1. First and foremost, husbands ought to love their wives and lead them well b/c it’s what God commands and we’re going to be accountable for how we do
that.

2. But second, husbands ought to love their wives and lead them well so they have loving, spiritual wives.

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So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.

LESSON 3: HUSBANDS OUGHT TO BE AS CONCERNED ABOUT THEIR WIVES AS THEY ARE ABOUT THEMSELVES.

If you briefly look at verse 31 – which we’ll look at in more detail in a minute – it says: “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This is a quote
of Gen 2:24; it’s describing God’s divine plan for marriage that when a man and woman become husband and wife they’re no longer two
separate individuals, but one. And since husbands are to see themselves as one w/ their wives to love their wives is to love themselves.

This verse is the most moving and compelling description in Scripture of the oneness that should characterize the Christian marriage: husbands should care
for their wives w/ the same devotion they naturally manifest for themselves.

John MacArthur said,

“Marriage itself is consummated with the literal bodily union of husband and wife. From that point on, the husband should regard the wife as his own
flesh. If she hurts, he ought to feel the pain. If she has needs, he should embrace those needs as his own. He should seek to feel what she feels,
desire what she desires, and in effect, give her the same care and consideration he gives his own body.”

Gentlemen, I want to ask you some questions, and before I do, I want to tell you I am very convicted by these questions myself, b/c I know what I would
have to answer:

· First, are you as concerned about how your wife is doing as you are about how you’re doing?

· Are you as concerned about how much sleep your wife is getting as you are about how much you’re getting?

· When your wife is sick are you as concerned about how she’s doing as you are about yourself when you’re sick…or when she’s sick are you as concerned
about her as you want her to be about you when you’re sick? Let’s face it, when some guys are sick, they become complete babies, and they expect their
wives to treat them like they’re about to die.

· Are you as concerned about your wife overworking herself as you are about overworking yourself?

When I was going over my sermon w/ Katie she said, “These are great questions!”

Let me tell you what almost any man would be WILLING to do, and then let me tell you what God WANTS us to do…

· Every man would be willing to jump in front of a car to save his wife.

· We all think how if someone broke into our houses we’d be willing to protect our wives even if it meant laying down our lives for them.

But guess what many guys aren’t willing to do? And guess what it is that God wants us to do? He wants us to:

  • Daily lay down our lives for our wives.
  • Daily think about our wives and what’s best for them.

So what does this look like? It looks like sacrifice. It looks like giving up things you wouldn’t have to give up if you didn’t have a wife:

  • That could be sleep.
  • Could be free time.
  • Could be sports.
  • Could be video games.
  • Could be television.
  • Could be time with friends.

Could be whatever it is that prevents you from loving and caring for your wife the way you love and care for yourself.

We’re looking at one of the main reasons I wanted to discuss husbands loving their wives before we discussed wives submitting to their husbands:

· When wives know they’ll be loved like this, they’ll have a much easier time submitting to their husbands.

· When a woman knows a man will seek to love her like this, she’ll be able to trust putting the leadership of their marriage and family in his hands.

To address the young single people here…

For the young single men here, before you get married, one of the questions you need to ask yourselves is,

“Am I willing to give up areas of my life that I enjoy so much so I can love my wife as myself? Am I willing to make the sacrifices necessary to be the
kind of husband God describes in His Word?”

1 Cor 13:11

When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; BUT WHEN I BECAME A MAN, I PUT AWAY CHILDISH THINGS.

So another way to look at it is, “Am I willing to stop being a child and be a man?” Now I can’t say what age this should happen – that young men
should put away childish things – but I can say this: you’re not ready to get married until you’re ready to do that.

For the young single ladies here and their fathers who would be considering a young man as a potential husband or son-in-law, the question you need to ask
yourselves is,

“Does this look like a young man who’s willing to make the sacrifices necessary – who’s willing to give up childish things –to be a loving and
spiritual husband?”

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For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.

This is a continuation of the previous verse…

Paul is making the simple point that if husbands see themselves as one w/ their wives, they’re naturally going to love and cherish their wives like they do
themselves, b/c they’re going to see their wives as themselves and no husband hates himself. Instead husbands are concerned about themselves and they need
to take care of their wives w/ that same amount of love and concern.

The words nourishing and cherishing express the twin responsibilities of husbands to take care of our wives spiritually and physically…

Nourishing
refers to taking care of our wives spiritually. The word for nourish is ektrephō (pf: ek-tray-foe) and it means to nourish up to maturity
, or to nurture, bring up. It only occurs three times in Scripture: once in this verse and twice in in Eph 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring (ektrephō) them up (ektrephō) in the training and admonition of the Lord.

It’s interesting that the three times ektrephō is used, it’s used to describe the way husbands should be in the two most important relationships
in their lives: their relationships w/ their wives and their relationships w/ their children. The idea is just like a father would raise his children
spiritually, so he would raise his wife spiritually.

The second word, cherishing, refers to taking care of our wives physically, mentally and emotionally; it refers to being tenderly
affectionate and warm and comforting.

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For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones.

Now Paul gives the reason husbands are to love and cherish their wives as their own bodies, b/c that’s what Christ does w/ His body: the church. We are His
body: we are His flesh and His bones. Since Christ treats His body – us – this way, husbands are to do the same w/ their bodies, which
includes their wives, since husbands and wives are one flesh.

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“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”

This is a quote of Gen 2:24 which I mentioned earlier. This is God’s divine plan for marriage, which He instituted at creation. This is
what’s known as the “leave and cleave” verse: children are supposed to leave their parents and cleave to their spouses.

This verse is emphasizing the two most important aspects of marriage: its unity and permanence…

First, you can circle the words leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and write the word, “permanence.” The word
for joined means “1) to glue upon, glue to, 2) to join one’s self to closely, cleave to, stick to.” It’s referring to the
permanent nature of marriage.

Then, you can circle the words two shall become one flesh and write the word, “unity.”

Together, these words mean the relationship could never come apart. There’s a certain word that should never be said marriage, b/c when it’s said even when
it’s forgiven it’s not forgotten, and that is the word “divorce.”

We counseled a couple in CA and one of their biggest problems was they couldn’t trust each other b/c they’d each used the word “divorce.” They
were convinced the other said it first, but it didn’t really matter who said it first, b/c they’d each said it. As a result neither of them could forget
the other had said it, and it left them w/o confidence in the other’s commitment.

A divorce is like taking two pieces of metal that have been welded, or joined together and pulling them apart. It’s never going to be a
nice split:

  • Both pieces of metal are going to be damaged

· Both pieces of metal are going to take some of the other piece of metal w/ them.

This is one of the main reasons divorces are so painful. Think of the terrible price millions have paid b/c of divorces.

When churches discuss divorce, there are two ways to view the church’s motivation:

· You can believe the church is trying to condemn people who are divorced and make them feel bad about it.

· Or you can believe the church is teaching on divorce to discourage divorce, encourage marital unity, and spare people – especially the children – the
heartache divorces bring.

There are people who have been through divorces and perhaps if they’d been in churches that taught on divorce and discouraged it, maybe they wouldn’t have
suffered the grief and pain associated w/ a divorce.

Also, I can tell you while I’m talking about divorce that in my experience most Christians already feel bad enough about divorces. If I ever talk about
divorce it’s never w/ the intention of making people feel worse about it: it’s w/ the intention of hopefully preventing others from going through the same
pain and grief themselves.

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Now let me draw your attention to the words “a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife.”

LESSON 4: (PART I) KEEP THE MARRIAGE IN THE MARRIAGE…

When people are upset w/ their spouses the temptation is to want to run off and complain and gossip to others about how badly they’re being treated. There
is an especially strong temptation for newly married people to want to go back to their parents. This is why in-laws constitute one of the three main
problems in the marriage relationship along w/ finances and child rearing. Paul is trying to prevent in-laws from being that problem by telling married
people to cling to their spouses instead of their parents.

Last week during our courtship class, Katie told the story of the father who loved his daughter enough – or I should say loved his daughter’s marriage
enough – to send his daughter away when she came to him after a fight w/ her husband. He told her to go home and work out her problems w/ her husband.

I’ve told you before one of the ways my parents have really helped our marriage is they never side w/ me. They always think Katie is right and they always
think I’m wrong. It’s been very hard…sometimes I just feel so alone…I don’t know why my parents don’t love me more J.

This doesn’t just happen w/ parents though:

  • Some wives might want to talk to their girlfriends
  • Some husbands might want to talk to their guy friends.

Even though in-laws are the ones named in the verse, the larger point is: if you’re not supposed to complain to your parents when you’re married, there’s
nobody you should complain to about your spouse.

It’s easy to understand why people are tempted to go to their parents or friends when they’re upset w/ their spouse, b/c they believe these people will
side w/ them. But the dangers of this are obvious:

  • It’s going to make people feel angrier at their spouse.
  • It’s going to make people feel entitled and justified.

· It’s going to make people feel like they deserve to be treated better than they’re being treated.

Basically it’s going to take an already strained relationship and make it worse.

The even worse scenario is people going to people of the opposite sex. Then you end up with…

  • Wives saying, “I wish my husband listened to me the way he listens to me. I bet HE WOULD NEVER treat me the way my husband treats me!”
  • Or you have husbands saying, “I bet she would show me WAY MORE respect than my wife shows me. She would appreciate all my hard work and everything I do.”

Complaining about your spouse to others is detrimental to your marriage and sinful.

LESSON 4: (PART I) KEEP THE MARRIAGE IN THE MARRIAGE (PART II) UNLESS YOU’RE LOOKING FOR GODLY COUNSEL.

There is one exception to keeping the marriage in the marriage, and that’s when you’re genuinely looking for godly counsel.

There seem to be two mistakes people make in marriage when they’re having problems, and these mistakes are on opposite sides of the spectrum…

The first extreme is people are having marriage problems, but:

  • They don’t want to admit it.
  • They don’t want to talk to anyone about it.
  • They want to pretend like everything is okay.
  • They want to believe the problems will go away on their own.
  • They want to keep their struggles a secret.

So they don’t look for help when they should and their marriage doesn’t improve. So let me be very clear that there is definitely one time THE MARRIAGE
SHOULD NOT STAY IN THE MARRIAGE, and that’s when the marriage is having serious problems and you should get some help.

Our hope at WCC is if your marriage is struggling, you wouldn’t hesitate to contact Pastor Doug and let him know. He’s available every week for this
purpose. We’re investing in him to see him and Jessica to see them grow in this area. Next month we’re sending them to a Biblical Counseling Conference at
John MacArthur’s church. You’ve got great resources in them! Everyone I’ve spoken to who has met w/ them has had nothing but great things to say.

Now the other extreme people take is they’re having problems in they’re marriage, and they ACT LIKE they’re looking for godly counsel, but really they’re
just looking to complain about their spouse. You can tell very quickly when you’re dealing w/ people like this…

They come to you and say, “Hey, I’m having some problems in my marriage and I would really like some advice.” Then they tell you everything bad
their spouse has ever done – and to be clear I understand if you’re getting advice you’re going to have to share some bad things about your spouse, but
here’s what they never do:

· They never reach the point where they want to know what you think.

  • They never take any responsibility:
  • They never share any of their weaknesses.
  • They never admit any of their failures.
  • They never say:

o “What do you think I did wrong?”

o “Does it sound like there’s anything I should do differently?”

o “How could I be a better husband or wife?”

These people aren’t really looking for godly counsel; they’re just looking for an opportunity to gossip about their spouse.

Now b/c of the low regard for marriage today – in the world and in the church – if you want to talk bad about your spouse you’re not going to have much
trouble finding someone who wants to listen.

I’ve told you before that really sadly I have tried to talk to people into staying married and they responded by telling me they received counsel not to
stay married and very sadly that counsel came from people who call themselves Christians…sometimes even pastors. That’s sad, especially when we consider
God says He hates divorce.

So let me give you two encouragements:

· First, if you really want counsel, be willing to receive criticism about yourself and what you need to change.

  • Second, let me tell you who to go to and who not to go to…

Do not go to ungodly, immature friends who are more concerned w/ the way they look to you than they are about your marriage. These people are going to say
things like:

  • I can’t believe she did that.
  • You should be mad.
  • He doesn’t know what he has in you.
  • You don’t have to put up w/ that.
  • You deserve so much better.

You do people a terrible disservice and you sin against the Lord when you poison people toward their spouses.

Godly, mature friends who love you and care about your marriage MORE than they care about the way they look to you are going to say things like:


  • “You need to treat your wife better. You need to tell her you love her and encourage her. You need to ask for her forgiveness for the way you
    talked to her.”
  • Or, “

    You need to treat your husband better. You need to show him more respect. You need to stop talking to him like that and stop treating him like he’s
    a child.”

These are the things godly, loving friends say.

LESSON 5: “LEAVE” AND “CLEAVE” TO CHRIST.

As I was studying these verses this week and thinking about leaving and cleaving, something occurred to me…

In Matt 10:37 Jesus said, He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me.” Jesus
is saying He needs to be first in our lives. When we “leave” our parents to “cleave” to our spouses, we don’t literally “leave” them, but we do make our
spouses a priority over them. In this verse Jesus is saying He wants us to “cleave” to Him in terms of making Him first in our lives.

Isa 54:5
For your Maker is your husband,


The Lord of hosts is His name.


In the OT God wanted His people to see their relationships w/ Him like a marriage, and in the NT God wants us to see our relationships w/ Christ like a
marriage. That’s why it says we can commit adultery in our relationships w/ the Lord, when we have a relationship w/ the world. Please listen to this
verse…

Jam 4:4
Adulterers and adulteresses!
(Now we see how we commit that adultery…)

Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Whoever therefore wants to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.

God actually said that having a relationship w/ the world is committing adultery in our relationships w/ Him.

1 John 2:15 Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.

Really the most important leaving and cleaving we do in this life is leaving the world and cleaving to Christ. If we do that it will strengthen our
marriages and families b/c we’ll be ridding ourselves of the sin that comes from the world and ruins our relationships.

Please listen to this quote:

”When I have learned to love God better than my earthly dearest, I shall love my earthly dearest better than I do now. When first things are put first,
second things are not suppressed but increased.”

Having a deep and sincere love for Christ is the best way to have a deep and sincere love for our spouses, children and parents.

After service, like last week, a few of us are going to be up front and we’d love the opportunity to pray for you, your marriage, your family.

LET’S REVIEW THESE LESSONS:

LESSON 1: AS WE BEGIN, MAKE THE DECISION TO:

· PART I: FOCUS ON YOUR WEAKNESSES MORE THAN YOUR SPOUSE’S

(PART II) AND TURN YOUR FRUSTRATIONS INTO PRAYER.

· PART III: TRUST THE HOLY SPIRIT TO WORK (PART IV) WITH YOU.

· PART V: REMEMBER LISTENING IS NOT ENOUGH.

LESSON 2: HUSBANDS GET THE WIVES THEY PREPARE FOR THEMSELVES.

LESSON 3: HUSBANDS OUGHT TO BE AS CONCERNED ABOUT THEIR WIVES AS THEY ARE ABOUT THEMSELVES.

LESSON 4: (PART I) KEEP THE MARRIAGE IN THE MARRIAGE (PART II) UNLESS YOU’RE LOOKING FOR GODLY COUNSEL.

LESSON 5: “LEAVE” AND “CLEAVE” TO CHRIST.

Author: Scott LaPierre