A Greater Beauty – 1 Peter 3.3-5

We’re on our 10th message in our Marriage & Family Series and the title of this morning’s sermon is “A Greater Beauty.”

Let’s back up to verse 1 to get the context…


1 Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct
of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.

We covered these two verses last week.

If you remember when we were in Eph 5, verse 25 commanded husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church. Then the following verses describe what
that looks like. The same is happening here: verses 1 and 2 command wives to win over their husbands by their conduct, and the following verses describe
what that conduct looks like…

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Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—

The Greek word for adornment is kosmos (pr: cause-moss); it’s related to our word cosmetic. It’s an umbrella word
encompassing everything related to the outward appearance, like clothing, makeup, or jewelry…and this brings us to our first lesson…

LESSON 1: OUTWARD ADORNMENT ISN’T WRONG.

Before we discuss what this verse is saying, let’s discuss what it’s not saying:

· It’s not saying women shouldn’t adorn themselves outwardly…

· It’s not saying women should neglect their outward appearance…

· It’s not saying women should have no concern for how they look…

Instead it’s saying women shouldn’t ONLY focus on their outward appearance.

For example, 1 Tim 2:9 discusses women adorning themselves; it says women [should] adorn themselves.

And there’s another possibility…

Some translations contain the word merely in verse 3: Do not let your adornment be merely outward:

  • NAS Your adornment must not be merely external.
  • The Amplified: Let not yours be the [merely] external adorning.

The word merely means a woman’s beauty shouldn’t come from merely – or ONLY – the outward.

And there are a number of places in the Old Testament that speak positively of outward adornment…

Pro 25:12
Like
an earring of gold and an ornament of fine gold
Is a wise rebuker to an obedient ear.
David compares gold earrings to the way an obedient ear accepts instruction. If outward adornment – like earrings – were wrong, we wouldn’t expect David to
make a comparison between wise behavior and something that’s wrong.

Proverbs 31
describes the ideal woman and interestingly she isn’t applauded for her simplicity or plainness outwardly, she’s actually applauded for the way she adorns
her family outwardly: Pro 31:

21b All her household is clothed with scarlet. 22 She makes tapestry for herself; Her clothing is fine linen and purple.

Scarlet, fine linen and purple were fancy materials in the OT.

The woman in Song of Solomon adorned herself outwardly: Song of Solomon 1:10-11 Your cheeks are lovely with ornaments, Your neck with chains of gold. 11 We will make you ornaments of gold With studs of silver.

Isaiah 61:10
is a wonderful verse about salvation, and it compares salvation w/ ornaments and jewelry: I will greatly rejoice in the Lord

For He has clothed me with the garments of salvation,

He has covered me with the robe of righteousness,

As a bridegroom decks himself with ornaments,

And as a bride adorns herself with her jewels.

Isaiah compares righteousness and salvation to a bride and bridegroom who adorn themselves w/ ornaments and jewels. It’s
hard to imagine God comparing salvation and righteousness to ornaments or jewelry if He disapproved of women adorning themselves outwardly.

Something similar is said in Jer 2:32 Can a virgin forget her ornaments, Or a bride her attire? Yet My people have forgotten Me days without number. God compares forgetting Him to a woman forgetting
her ornaments. Again, it’s hard to imagine God making such a comparison if He thought outward adornment was wrong.

Maybe some of the strongest verses presenting outward adornment positively are Eze 16:11-13. God says He’s blessed his children with many
forms of outward adornment:

I adorned you with ornaments, put bracelets on your wrists, and a chain on your neck. 12 I put a jewel in your nose, earrings in your ears,
and a beautiful crown on your head. 13 You were adorned with gold and silver, and your clothing was of fine linen, silk, and
embroidered cloth…You were exceedingly beautiful, and succeeded to royalty.

If God thought negatively of outward adornment, He wouldn’t outwardly adorn His people as a gift or reward.

So let’s be clear about one point before we move on: outward adornment is not wrong.

But w/ that said, there’s a balance that needs to be struck…

1 Tim 2:9
discusses women adorning themselves, but it’s very clear about the way they’re supposed to do so:

women [should] adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing

. The verse discusses women adorning themselves, but it tells them to do so in a modest and non-extravagant way.

This presents a balance that needs to be struck…

· The Bible speaks positively of outward adornment…like in the verses I previously mentioned.

  • But the Bible also does this:

o It commands modesty and decency…

o It commands women to use moderation…

o It commands women to exhibit self-control in the way they adorn themselves…

The point is even though attention can – and should – be given to the outward appearance, it shouldn’t be taken to an extreme. It’s possible to have an
unhealthy preoccupation – or worse obsession – w/ the outward appearance.


Now I said women should give some attention to the outward appearance, and here’s why: we’re all ambassadors of Christ. The way we look and care for
ourselves – whether male, female, young or old – is a reflection of Christ.

So here’s what Peter is NOT doing in verse 3:

· He’s not discouraging women from looking nice or taking care of themselves.

· He’s not encouraging women to look unkempt or disheveled.

· He’s not permitting women to look tacky or sloppy.

So ladies, strive to look nice. Take care of yourselves. Be presentable.

Gene Getz said, “

Remember: you can dress elaborately to attract attention to yourself, or you can be shabby, unkempt or unclean to attract attention to yourself. Both
lead to a lack of respectability.”

There are actually three ways women can draw attention to their outward appearance, and all of them should be avoided:

  1. First, and most obviously, women can draw attention to their outward appearance by dressing immodestly:

a. When women dress immodestly they’re like walking temptations…

b. They’re showing no regard for their brothers in Christ…

c. They’re literally acting in a way that invites others to sin.

  1. The second way women can draw attention to themselves is when they go too far in their outward appearance:

a. They focus too much on it…

b. They wear too much jewelry or too much makeup.

  1. And the third way women can draw attention to their outward appearance is by having no concern whatsoever w/ their outward appearance:

a. When they look untidy or scruffy.

b. When they look look sloppy or tacky.

Whether male or female, an unkempt appearance could reveal something:

· It could reveal laziness; people not willing to put forth the effort to look decent.

· It could reveal a heart that’s unconcerned w/ representing itself well…which is important for every Christian who’s a representative of Christ.

The truth is, both women and men can honor God by dressing and grooming themselves in a way that’s presentable and modest.


Now before we move on from discussing outward adornment, I’d like to make a really important point and this brings us to Lesson 2…

LESSON 2: MODESTY IS AN ISSUE OF THE HEART.

The way women look outwardly, says a lot about what’s going on inwardly:

· The way a woman looks physically says a lot about what’s happening spiritually.

· You could say the way a woman dresses is a reflection of her relationship w/ the Lord:

And when women dress immodestly, it’s a symptom and not a problem: it’s a problem w/ the heart, but it manifests itself outwardly. When women dress
immodestly – or when women focus or obsess on the outward – it says something about what’s happening inwardly:

  • It could be b/c of insecurity…

· It could be b/c they crave being noticed…

· It could be b/c they don’t respect themselves…

· It could be b/c they’re desperate to get a guy’s attention…

But whatever the reason, when women dress immodestly, it’s an issue of the heart.

Women should examine what they wear. They should ask themselves, “Why am I wearing this?” Gene Getz said, What are my motives in relationship to what I wear? Am I merely attracting attention to myself or to the Lord Jesus Christ who lives within me?”


Now let me briefly address the single ladies…

I’d like to share two simple truths w/ you…

First, the more modestly you dress, the more you conceal from men, and the more attractive you’ll be to your husband in the future.

Think of it like this:

· The more immodestly a woman dresses, the LESS is reserved for her husband. The chasm between what is kept for him alone is decreased. If you dress
immodestly, the reality is there will be very little for him that wasn’t already available to the other men around you.

· The more modestly a woman dresses, the MORE is reserved for her husband. The chasm between what is kept for him increases.

The irony associated w/ women dressing immodestly is they do so to get attention, and this brings us to the second truth…

You can get attention from dressing immodestly. There are plenty of guys out there specifically looking for immodestly dressed ladies b/c they know…

  • They’re desperate for attention…
  • They’re insecure…

· They won’t require the investment of time and energy that a secure, confident, modest woman would require…

The truth is they see you as an easy target.

So here’s the question: what kind of men will be giving you attention when you dress immodestly? You’ll be getting attention from ungodly, worldly men…b/c
the godly men won’t have anything to do w/ you; they’ll be too busy looking for godly, modest women.

There’s a great quote that I’ve seen circling around Facebook: Dear girls, dressing immodestly is like rolling around in manure. Sure, it will get your attention but mostly from pigs.

 

Sincerely,

Real Men.”


Now let me briefly address the fathers here…and let me preface this by saying I know this isn’t always true – I know there are definitely some exceptions –
but I also many times this is the case…

Earlier I said the way a woman dresses is a reflection of her relationship w/ the Lord, and that’s true whether they’re young or old. But for young ladies
there’s another relationship that often affects the way they dress and that’s their relationship w/ their father.

Fathers generally affect their daughter’s modesty in two important ways: directly and indirectly…

Directly, the father is the one who should be telling his daughter when she’s dressing immodestly. When she wears something immodest, he should talk to her
about it. When you see young ladies dressing immodestly it says something about the young lady…but it also says something about the father:

  • Where is he?
  • Why isn’t he protecting his daughter?
  • Why isn’t he leading his home?

Indirectly, the father’s relationship affects his daughter’s modesty b/c often when young ladies seek the attention of men it’s b/c they haven’t received
much attention from their fathers.

Fathers, this is why we want to strive to give our daughters a healthy amount of love, attention and affection…so they won’t look for it in unhealthy ways,
from unhealthy men.


Now let’s look at verse 4…

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rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious
in the sight of God.

Please notice the connection between verses 3 and 4:

  • Verse 3 is about the outward.
  • Verse 4 is about the inward.

Let me share a verse w/ you that helps explain what I see happening in verses 3 and 4. It’s 1 Tim 4:8a For bodily exercise profits a little, but godliness is profitable for all things.

The verse is not saying bodily exercise is unprofitable…or bad…or wrong…or sinful…for any of you who think you can use this verse to tell me not to work
out J. It actually says there’s a little profit to bodily exercise. But it says godliness is way more profitable.

That’s sort of what’s happening in verses 3 and 4:

· Verse 3 isn’t saying women shouldn’t give any attention to the outward.

· But verse 4 is saying women should give way more attention to the inward.

And this brings us to our next lesson…

LESSON 3: A GREATER BEAUTY IS FOUND INWARDLY.

The natural focus for women – and some men too – and it’s definitely where the world wants our focus – is the outward. This verse is saying it shouldn’t be
that way: more attention should be given to the inward. Please notice the word rather, or in the ESV, NAS andKJV it’s the word but, and in other translations like the HCSB and ISV it’s the word instead.

Peter is showing a contrast:

· He’s saying more focus should be placed on the inward than the outward.

· He’s writing about priorities: it’s not that the outward should be neglected, it’s just that the inward should receive much more attention.

· If a woman is focusing too much on her outward appearance, her priorities are wrong and it’s going to hurt her inward appearance. A woman shouldn’t be so
focused on her outward appearance that she neglects the way she looks inwardly:

o God is more concerned about how your heart looks than how your face looks.

o You want to spend more time on your heart than you spend on your hair or makeup.


Now there’s so much in verse 4 that I’d like to break it into parts…

Let’s look at the words “hidden person” first. This is encouraging women to have a hidden or inner or secret beauty:

· This is a beauty that requires looking and searching to find.

· This is discussing a woman who takes an investment of time and energy to really get to know her and appreciate her beauty.

Now contrast this w/ what the world tells women. Does the world tell women to have a hidden or inner beauty?

· No, the world tells women to put it all out there…

· The world tells women to only be concerned with outward beauty that’s not hidden at all…

· The world says you can tell if a woman is beautiful w/o getting to know her: it just takes one look and you can see if she’s beautiful or not.

We’re going to skip the words incorruptible beauty and come back to them. For now look at the words gentle and quiet spirit.

Before we discuss what these words mean, I’d like to discuss what they don’t mean…

I think some people see these words and think they mean women shouldn’t speak, so let me say something very, very important: it says gentle and quiet spirit instead of gentle and quiet mouth. These words aren’t discouraging women from speaking…but they
are discouraging women from speaking a certain way…which we’ll discuss in a moment. For now just know:

· Women aren’t better if they never say anything.

· Women aren’t compromising when they speak.

· God isn’t trying to get women to stop talking.

I didn’t include this in the sermon, but realized later it would fit well here. Pro 30:26 says

She opens her mouth with wisdom,

And on her tongue is the law of kindness.

 

This verse shows the wisdom and kindness of the Virtuous Wife when she speaks….making it obvious she’s not supposed to never say anything.


As a note, I know this verse can almost be troubling to women who have stronger personalities or gifts to lead and teach other women and children, so let
me try to encourage women who fall into this category…

God has gifted some women to lead and teach other women and children, and that can’t happen except there be some women w/ leadership and teaching
ability…and this verse isn’t in conflict w/ that.

But even women called to lead and teach other women and children can still have gentle and quiet spirits, which brings us to the next
lesson…

LESSON 4: THE WORDS “GENTLE AND QUIET SPIRIT” MEAN A WOMAN IS PEACEFUL, CALM AND CONTROLLED.

Now that we understand what gentle and quiet spirit doesn’t mean we can talk about what these words do mean:

· They’re referring to a woman’s disposition.

· They’re discussing the way a woman should handle herself and respond to situations in life.

Gentle
is also translated as meek or humble. The other two places it occurs are Matt 5:5 and Matt 21:5:

  • Matt 5:5 Blessed are the meek
    (or gentle) for they shall inherit the earth.
  • Matt 21:5 “Behold, your King is coming to you, Lowly
    (this is the word for gentle), and sitting on a donkey, A colt, the foal of a donkey.” So
    interestingly, the word for gentle is also used to describe the Messiah’s disposition!

The word for quiet means tranquil and peaceful. It only occurs two times in Scripture: here in 1 Peter 3:4 and the other
place it occurs is 1 Tim 2:2 where we’re instructed to lead quiet and peaceable lives.

The words quiet spirit mean a woman is peaceful, calm and in control. She isn’t easily wrought or stirred up. A woman who has a gentle and quiet spirit is at rest. She’s not prone to worry or anxiousness.

And the reason for all this is very important: she trusts in the Lord. That’s why her spirit is quiet and gentle.

We’re going to look at verse 5 in a moment, but if you briefly look at it right now it says, “For in this manner, in former times, the holy women WHO TRUSTED IN GOD.” These women had gentle and quiet spirits, b/c
of their trust in God. Having a gentle and quiet spirit is about a woman’s relationship w/ the Lord:

· If a woman trusts God, she won’t worry or be anxious: her spirit will be peaceful and at rest.

· If a woman doesn’t trust God, she’ll be filled w/ anxiousness and concern: her spirit won’t be peaceful or at rest.


Now earlier I said the words gentle and quiet spirit are not discouraging women from speaking…but they are discouraging women from
speaking a certain way.

If you want to know how a woman speaks when she DOESN’T HAVE a gentle and quiet spirit, think of how the world encourages women to act and
you’ll get the idea:

· The world encourages women to be loud and obnoxious: an “I am woman, hear me roar” type of attitude.

· The world encourages women to be controlling and bossy and authoritarian.

This is the OPPOSITE of having a gentle and quiet spirit.


Next look at the words incorruptible beauty. Before we discuss what these words mean, I want to give you a few statistics about
cosmetic surgeries:

· In 1997 there were 2.1 million cosmetic surgeries.

· In 2011 there were 9.2 million cosmetic surgeries.

· Over 15 years from, 1997 to 2011, the number of cosmetic surgeries more than quadrupled, from 2.1 million to 9.2 million.

· In 2011 nearly $10 billion was spent on cosmetic procedures. Despite a stumbling economy, people still had enough money for facelifts! A report I found
on CNN.com said,

“What recession? Despite record unemployment, rising health care costs and sinking home values, Americans shelled out more than $10 billion on cosmetic
surgeries and other procedures in 2010…Almost half of Americans have less than $10,000 saved for retirement, but millions are running off to the
plastic surgeon.”

  • There were:

o Over 2.5 million Botox injections.

o Over 1 million chemical fillers – I don’t even know what that is!

One particularly crazy story I read about took place w/ a woman named Heidi Montag. She had ten plastic surgeries…in one day! She said her surgeries left
lots of scars and marks. Here’s a quote from her:

“Parts of my body definitely look worse than they did presurgery. This is not what I signed up for. I would love to not be ‘plastic girl’ or whatever
they call me. Surgery ruined my career and my personal life and just brought a lot of negativity into my world. I wish I could jump into a time machine
and take it all back. Instead, I’m always going to feel like Edward Scissorhands

.”

Even ten plastic surgeries didn’t giver her the beauty she wanted…when the surgeries were over, say nothing about for the rest of her life.

The end of the article on CNN.com said, “

Here’s my question to you: what does it mean that despite the worst recession since the Great Depression, Americans spent more than $10 billion on
cosmetic procedures last year?”

I’ll tell you what it means: it means women – and some men too – really want to stay beautiful:

· Women really want a beauty that doesn’t change or fade w/ time.

  • Women really want an incorruptible beauty.

Now I have some great news for you ladies…

Notice the words incorruptible beauty…of a gentle and quiet spirit:

· It’s saying inner beauty is beauty that isn’t corrupted w/ time.

  • A gentle and quiet spirit
    provides a beauty that doesn’t go away w/ age!
  • A gentle and quiet spirit
    provides something better than 10 plastic surgeries in one day; it provides something better than what these people are spending $10 billion on.

The words gentle and quiet spirit are to be understood in light of the previous verse:

· Verse 3 is describing outward beauty, and that’s beauty that fades.

· Verse 4 is describing a way for women to have a beauty that never fades: it’s incorruptible.

o It doesn’t diminish w/ time and the simple reason is this: it’s not a beauty that comes from physical appearance.

o While women will age physically – while their physical beauty diminishes – they can remain just as beautiful – or become even more beautiful – as they
age if they’re pursuing a gentle and quiet spirit.

Earlier I mentioned the Proverbs 31 woman, and verse 30 saysCharm is deceitful and beauty is passing (this is referring to outward, physical beauty), But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.


Now let me tell you two very important contrasting truths regarding a gentle and quiet spirit

  1. First, a gentle and quiet spirit doesn’t need any makeup or jewelry or outward adornment to be beautiful. It’s plenty beautiful, and
    plenty attractive all on its own.

  2. Second, when a woman doesn’t have a gentle and quiet spirit there’s no amount of makeup or jewelry or outward adornment that can make
    her beautiful.

When you take a woman who’s loud and controlling and obnoxious, it doesn’t matter what she looks like: she won’t be attractive. She might look attractive
when you see her; but the attractiveness will be gone very quickly as you get to know her.

This is not just my opinion; this is what God’s Word says. Please listen to this verse…

Pro 11:22 Like a ring of gold in a pig’s snout, so is a beautiful woman who lacks discretion.

Let me tell you what this verse is saying…

It’s saying a physically beautiful woman who lacks discretion – or judgment, which is to say she doesn’t know how to act like a godly
woman – is like a ring of gold in a pig’s snout.

Nobody ever looks at a ring in a pig’s nose and says, “Wow, that is a really beautiful ring!”

· Nobody says that b/c you can’t see the beauty of the ring b/c it’s drowned out by the ugly pig wearing it.

· The idea is you can’t see the physical beauty of a loud, controlling woman, b/c it’s drowned out by the obnoxious, ugly personality.

Pro 11:22
means there’s no amount of makeup to cover a loud, controlling, bossy woman:

· There is no amount of makeup that can take a loud, controlling, bossy woman and make her beautiful.

· You can put a bunch of jewelry and makeup on her, but it’s like putting a ring in a pig’s nose: it’s still unattractive.


In movies whenever they want to show some guy starting to fall in love with some woman, they always show her laughing and joyful while he stares at her.
It’s never him falling in love with her while she’s yelling and screaming or throwing a fit.

· The point is, even the world knows how unattractive it is for women to act like that.

· Inward beauty is what gives women lasting beauty, and inward ugliness makes women outwardly ugly.

Consider this…

There’s a ceiling on how attractive a woman can make herself physically…and that ceiling is her genetics:

  • She can take care of herself.
  • She can make sure she’s presentable.
  • She can dress nicely…
  • She can adorn herself well…

But she’s still limited by what she looks like.

But inwardly every woman has the potential to be very beautiful. And God says this beauty is incorruptible; it never goes away.


Now let me briefly address the young guys here. I want to give you some important advice. Please listen very carefully…

I know you’re visual, but this should be your prayer request: “Lord, please give me your eyes. Please let me see this young lady’s heart. Help me to see her the way you see her.”

Because the way God sees her is who she really is!

Young men, here are two truths:

· There’s no amount of good looks that can take the place of a gentle and quiet spirit.

· And there’s no amount of good looks that can make up for years married to a harsh and loud spirit.


I want to try to tie all this together by telling you about a guy who really didn’t understand all this:

· He didn’t care at all about inward beauty…

  • He didn’t care at all about the hidden person

· He didn’t care at all about a woman having a gentle and quiet spirit

He cared about one thing, and that’s how a woman looked outwardly…and it completely ruined his life. We briefly read about this guy last week. Please
listen to this verse…

Judges 16:4
[Samson] loved a woman in the Valley of Sorek, whose name was Delilah.

He could not have loved her for her wonderful personality! He loved her – and I’m using the word loved loosely – b/c of the way she looked. He completely neglected the inward, hidden person. If he would’ve looked for
it, he would’ve seen Delilah was an unbelievably ugly woman.

Now, let me back up two chapters from when Samson met Delilah. Listen to these verses from earlier in his life when he met his first wife…

Judges 14:1

Samson…saw a [Philstine woman]…2 So he told his father and mother, “I have seen a [Philistine woman], now…get her for me as a wife.”

3a
His father and mother said, “Is there no woman among [our people] that you must get a wife from the uncircumcised Philistines?”

Samson’s also a great example of the consequences of not having your parents’ blessing! His parents could’ve spared him from all the terrible suffering he
experienced being married to Delilah!

But listen to this…

3b
Samson said to his father, “Get her for me, for she pleases me well.”

 

He hadn’t even spoken to her yet! He doesn’t speak to her for another four verses! If he had spoken to her, hopefully he would’ve seen what a mistake he
was making.

The question is, what pleased him well? The way she looked. That was it.


Now listen to how it worked out for Samson being w/ an outwardly beautiful woman who was inwardly ugly. Here’s what happened…

Samson told a riddle to 30 Philistine men, and they knew he was married to a Philistine woman, so they asked her to get the answer to the riddle for them.
Listen to this…


14:16 Then Samson’s wife wept on him, and said, “You only hate me! You do not love me! You have posed a riddle to the sons of my people, but you have
not explained it to me.”

Does this sound at all familiar? It’s like last week w/ Delilah! This is what you get when you marry an outwardly beautiful woman who’s inwardly ugly.

So you young men in here, unless you want to go through what Samson went through, make sure you’re spending way more time studying a woman’s heart than
you’re studying her face.


Now back to 1 Peter 3:4, finally notice the words very precious in the sight of God.

We’ve been talking about men finding a woman’s gentle and quiet spirit attractive and beautiful, but guess who else appreciates it? God!

  • It’s precious to Him.

· God values this kind of spirit in women.

  • This is what’s important to Him.

Let me tell you two very important truths:

· It’s completely possible to be very beautiful in the world’s eyes, and be completely ugly in the Lord’s eyes.

· It’s also possible to be very plain or simple or even unattractive in the world’s eyes and be very, very beautiful in the Lord’s eyes.

  • 1 Sam 16:7
    For the
    Lord
    does
    not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the
    Lord
    looks at the heart.”

Ladies, if you want to please the Lord – if you want to be precious in His sight, seek to have a gentle and quiet spirit.
Pursue inner beauty that speaks louder than outward adornment.


Now moving on to verse 5…

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For in this manner, in former times
(this means OT times), the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands,

The words in this manner mean this is how godly women in the OT adorned themselves: they adorned themselves w/ a gentle and quiet spirit: that’s how they made themselves beautiful. They focused on the inward
beauty that’s described in verse 4.

But verse 5 isn’t just saying this is how OT women made themselves beautiful, it also describes how that beauty manifested itself: it manifested itself
through submission to their husbands.

Let me connect all these verses, so you see the wonderful thread that runs through them:

· In verse 3 Peter talked about women making themselves beautiful outwardly.

· Then in verse 4 he talked about women focusing more on making themselves beautiful inwardly.

· Finally in verse 5 Peter discusses how this inward beauty manifests itself: through submission to their husbands.

o ESV For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands

o NLT This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They put their trust in God and accepted the authority of their husbands.

Ladies, if you want to be beautiful in God’s eyes, submit to your husband!

If you want to read ahead, next week we’ll look at an OT woman who exemplified the inner beauty, character and submission Peter has been describing in
these verses…most of the time.

For our last lesson…

LESSON 5: JESUS WASN’T BEAUTIFUL TO THE WORLD.

In my mind a great way to conclude a sermon about beauty, is by considering what the Bible says about our Savior’s beauty…and interestingly the Bible says
He had no beauty at all…

Isa 53:2
He has no form or comeliness;
And when we see Him, THERE IS NO BEAUTY that we should desire Him.

It seems like Jesus was pretty humble looking.

The word for comeliness means splendor, majesty, honor or glory; it’s the idea that Jesus veiled His beauty and glory when He
became a man. Think of the kenosis in Phil 2, that Jesus emptied Himself: Phil 2:6 [Jesus] was

in the form of God…7 but made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men. 8 And being found in appearance as a man.

Part of what Jesus seemed to empty Himself of was physical beauty or glory.

To the world looks are everything, but to God they don’t mean much. Warren Wiersbe said,

“Few people deliberately try to be unattractive, but modern society has made a religion out of physical beauty. It is good to remember that Jesus
succeeded without it.”

I’ve told you before I don’t like pictures of Jesus. They always make Him look blonde, blue eyes and handsome. That’s not what He looked like, but the
other reason I don’t like that is it makes looks seem overly important.

Please listen again:

  • No form or comeliness.
  • No beauty that we should desire Him.

While we can’t say Jesus was ugly, it does say there was nothing beautiful about Him and there’s nothing that would make people desire Him. He definitely
couldn’t have been described as physically attractive.

Now why is this?

Jesus didn’t want people drawn to Him b/c of His looks. He wanted people drawn to Him b/c of something else:

  • He wanted people drawn to His humility…
  • He wanted people drawn to His love and compassion…

· Most importantly, Jesus wanted people drawn to the sacrifice He would make for them.

Just as the world saw no beauty in Christ that we should desire Him, so the world may say the same of women who are beautiful in God’s eyes.

When we think of a gentle and quiet spirit, how can we not think of Christ Himself? Please listen to this verse: Isa 53:7 He was oppressed and He was afflicted,

Yet He opened not His mouth;

He was led as a lamb to the slaughter,

And as a sheep before its shearers is silent,

So He opened not His mouth.

Christ’s gentle and quiet Spirit is what allows us to be here today. He truly pictured the greatest manifestation of beauty on the cross when He submitted
to His Father’s will. Hopefully we can all be reminded of His gentleness in the midst of great adversity.

My hope from today’s sermon is the Word of God will shape our view of what makes women truly beautiful. Christians need to see the greater beauty God has
laid out in His Word, the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit.

LET’S REVIEW THESE LESSONS:

LESSON 1: OUTWARD ADORNMENT ISN’T WRONG.

LESSON 2: MODESTY IS AN ISSUE OF THE HEART.

LESSON 3: A GREATER BEAUTY IS FOUND INWARDLY.

LESSON 4: THE WORDS GENTLE AND QUIET SPIRIT MEAN A WOMAN IS PEACEFUL, CALM AND CONTROLLED.

LESSON 5: JESUS WASN’T BEAUTIFUL TO THE WORLD.

Author: Scott LaPierre